Unlearning

From 5AM routines to diet culture to perfectly curated wellness habits… it’s easy to feel like everyone else has life figured out.In this episode, we unpack:why comparison hits so deeplyhow borrowed routines disconnect you from yourselfthe hidden shame behind wellness cultureand how to create habits that actually align with your body and lifeIf you’ve ever felt like someone else’s discipline made you question your own worth, this episode is for you.

You can understand your patterns, know where they come from, and still find yourself repeating them.In this episode, we explore the gap between awareness and real change, and why knowing isn’t always enough to create lasting transformation.We talk about:why awareness alone doesn’t shift patternshow the nervous system holds onto familiar responsesthe difference between understanding and integrationand what real change actually looks like in everyday lifeIf you’ve ever thought, “I know this… so why am I still doing it?” this episode will resonate.

Ever feel like life has gotten calmer… but instead of feeling better, it feels a little off?In this episode, we explore why your nervous system can interpret safety as boredom, and why that’s a normal part of the healing process.We talk about:why your body prefers familiarity over safetyhow calm can feel uncomfortable at firstthe difference between peace and numbnessand why you may feel pulled back into old patternsIf you’ve ever wondered why “better” doesn’t always feel better right away, this episode will make it make sense.

Ever leave a space feeling irritated, overwhelmed, or completely off, and wonder why it affected you so much?In this episode, we explore what’s really happening when your nervous system responds to high-energy, emotionally charged environments. *cough* kids sporting events....Through a real-life experience, we unpack:why certain spaces feel so intensewhat “normalized dysregulation” actually looks likethe difference between awareness and absorbingand how to move through these moments without losing yourselfIf you’ve ever felt like you carry energy that isn’t yours. this episode will resonate deeply.

The moment you stop abandoning yourself… someone will notice.In this episode, we explore the often unspoken side of alignment, the guilt, the shifting dynamics, and the discomfort that comes when you start choosing yourself.We talk about:Why alignment changes your relationshipsThe difference between guilt and misalignmentWhy people may feel disappointed when you growHow to set boundaries without shutting downAnd how to stay connected to yourself through it allThis is a real, honest conversation about what it actually looks like to live in alignment, beyond the idea of it.

An unplanned… but it felt important to share.This week, I lost my grandma. And later that same day, while teaching a class in a practice I’ve held for years… I broke open in a way I didn’t expect.In a room where I’m usually the one holding others, I was the one being held.In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, what it revealed about the nervous system, grief, control, and the identity of “being the strong one”… and why learning to receive support might be the most important part of healing.If you’ve ever felt like you have to hold it all together, this one is for you 🤍

You’re in the in-between.That space where who you used to be no longer fits…but who you’re becoming doesn’t feel fully anchored yet.In this episode, we explore the season that so many women find themselves in—but rarely have language for.The moments where:– clarity is followed by doubt– expansion is followed by contraction– and nothing feels as certain as it once didThis isn’t confusion.This isn’t failure.This is what it feels like when your life is expanding faster than your nervous system feels safe to hold.Inside this conversation, we move through:– why growth can feel destabilizing (even when it’s aligned)– the hidden pattern of over-responsibility and holding it all together– what it really means to lead from embodiment instead of effort– why receiving can feel harder than doing– and how to navigate this season without rushing out of itIf you’ve been questioning yourself lately…if things feel unclear, stretched, or heavy in a way you can’t quite explain…this episode will meet you there.Softly. Honestly. And without trying to fix you.Because nothing has gone wrong.You’re becoming someone your old nervous system hasn’t fully caught up to yet.Be sure to reach out and share your reflections, I'd love to hear them!

We hear it all the time,“be kind.”But what if that’s not actually the standard we should be striving for?In this episode, I share a simple moment from my day that sparked a deeper realization about how we show up in the world—and how often we focus on behavior while completely overlooking energy.Because here’s the truth:People don’t just hear you… they feel you.We explore:Why “being kind” can sometimes become performativeThe subtle ways unprocessed stress shows up in your tone, body, and presenceWhat it really means to be responsible for your energyHow your nervous system state impacts every interaction you haveWhy regulation isn’t just personal work,it’s relationalThis isn’t about being perfect or saying the right thing.It’s about becoming aware of how you actually feel to be around.Because that’s what people remember.If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction thinking “nothing was wrong, but something felt off”…this episode will shift how you see yourself, and others.As always if this stirred something in you, lets chat!

Alignment isn’t about certainty, confidence, or getting it “right.”It’s about safety.Honesty.And the body’s ability to tell the truth without fear.In this episode, we explore:Why alignment can feel confusing after survivalThe difference between ego-led and body-led alignmentWhat alignment actually feels like in the bodyWhy alignment emerges after regulation, not beforeThis episode continues our series on unlearning, shame, regulation, and alignment as lived experiences.If you're ready to dive deeper into an aligned life, send me a DM on IG or email [email protected]

In this episode, we explore regulation not as a concept, but as a lived, day-to-day experience.After unlearning old patterns and softening shame, regulation becomes the missing piece that allows real change to happen.We talk about:Why regulation is often mistaken for calm or controlHow dysregulation gets mislabeled as intuition or failureWhat regulation actually looks like in real lifeWhy capacity comes before clarityHow safety creates self-trustThis episode is part of an ongoing series on unlearning, shame, regulation, and alignment , lived through the body, not just understood in the mind.Let's dive in!

Ever notice how the moment things feel unclear, uncomfortable, or slow, you assume something is wrong?In this episode, we talk about why healing, unlearning, and growth often feel messier than we expect, and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing.This is a relatable, honest conversation about:The awkward “in-between” phase of growthWhy discomfort doesn’t mean regressionHow shame convinces us we’re doing it wrongWhat regulation actually looks like in real lifeAnd why nothing might need fixing at allRead for more, reach out and let's connect! [email protected]

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record.But I woke up receiving such a strong download around the New Moon Solar Eclipse in Aquarius and the beginning of the Year of the Fire Horse… that I couldn’t ignore it.In this episode, I break down (simply and grounded, not woo-woo) what eclipses represent, what Aquarius energy invites, and how the Fire Horse symbolizes bold identity shifts.But more importantly, we tie it back to nervous system healing, identity work, and why sustainable change isn’t about willpower…It’s about who you believe you are.If you’ve been feeling restless, emotional, aware, or stretched lately, this episode will help you understand why.And I’ll leave you with one powerful question:What are you stepping into that the old you couldn’t hold?

Valentine’s week often brings pressure, comparison, and questions about worth, especially if you’ve learned to equate love with effort or self-sacrifice.In this episode, we explore:How self-abandonment shows up in love and relationshipsWhy love learned through survival feels intense but exhaustingWhat love feels like in a regulated bodyWhy safety matters more than chemistryHow to move through Valentine’s week with more softness and self-trustThis is a grounding, honest conversation about redefining love, starting with yourself.

Shame doesn’t always shout, often, it whispers. It’s the quiet voice that keeps us small, stuck, and self-abandoning even when we know something needs to change.In this episode, we explore:✨ What shame really is (and what it isn’t)✨ How shame forms as a nervous system response✨ Why unlearning can feel unsafe✨ The link between shame, self-abandonment, and resentment✨ How to work with shame instead of fighting itThis episode is a compassionate invitation to soften, understand your patterns, and begin creating change from safety , not force.

Unlearning old patterns can feel liberating… and disorienting.In this episode, we explore the quiet, often confusing space that comes after you stop over-functioning, people-pleasing, or abandoning yourself, but before clarity fully arrives.This conversation is about integration, not urgency.Safety, not fixing.Learning how to trust yourself when the old armor is gone.In this episode, we talk about:Why the “in-between” can feel uncomfortable or emptyHow the nervous system responds after old coping patterns dissolveRebuilding trust with yourself through small, embodied choicesIdentity after survival modeWhat regulation actually looks like in everyday lifeIf you’ve been unlearning… and wondering now what? ....this episode is for you.✨ Free live masterclass: Regulated & Aligned🗓 January 29th at 7:30pm (Zoom)A gentle space to explore alignment, safety, and nervous-system, led change.🔗 Register HERE

We say we want change, but what if what we’re really afraid of isn’t growth… it’s unlearning?In this episode, we explore why letting go of old patterns can feel more threatening than staying stuck, even when those patterns no longer serve us. We unpack how survival strategies like people-pleasing, overworking, and self-abandonment once kept us safe, and why your nervous system may resist releasing them now.You’ll hear about:Why unlearning feels unsafe to the bodyThe difference between change and regulationHow identity, attachment, and belonging keep us clingingWhy you don’t need more discipline, you need safetyWhat unlearning actually looks like in real lifeThis is a soft, honest conversation for anyone who feels ready for something different… but doesn’t know how to let go of what’s familiar.✨ Free live masterclass: Regulated & Aligned January 29th at 7:30pm (Zoom)A gentle space to explore alignment, safety, and nervous system–led change. Join us HERE

Resentment doesn’t come from nowhere.It builds when we override our needs, silence our truth, and choose connection at the cost of ourselves, again and again.In this episode, we explore:How self-abandonment forms (and why it’s not your fault)Why resentment is a nervous system response, not a character flawThe deep human need for safety in the bodyHow unmet needs quietly turn into irritation, burnout, and withdrawalGentle ways to begin rebuilding trust with yourselfThis conversation is an invitation to stop forcing, stop self-betraying, and start creating a life that feels safe to live inside your body.If you’ve ever wondered why you feel resentful even when you “chose” the situation, this episode is for you.🎧 Listen in and let this land slowly.

This episode is a gentle reset for the new year. We’re talking about regulation, alignment, and creating a life that feels organic, not forced. If you’re craving a more grounded way to move forward, this conversation is for you.Includes an invitation to my free live masterclass Regulated & Aligned, happening Thur Jan 29th at 7:30pm. Register for the free masterclass [HERE]

This episode is a love note to you.On Christmas Eve, when emotions run high and expectations feel heavy, I wanted to offer a pause, not another lesson, not another thing to fix.In this episode, I share:• Gratitude for this community and the year we’ve shared• How to navigate the holidays if you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or stretched thin• Gentle nervous system reminders for busy homes, tender hearts, and complicated family dynamics• Permission to redefine what “doing the holidays right” actually meansWhether you’re surrounded by people or spending this season quietly, this episode is here to remind you: you don’t need to hold it all together to belong.This is your invitation to soften, breathe, and come home to yourself, exactly as you are.

Reflectors make up less than 1% of the population, and their sensitivity is their greatest gift.But when the world feels overwhelming, they fall into self-sabotage patterns like identity confusion, decision paralysis, emotional withdrawal, and settling for environments that drain them.In this episode, I break down:✨ Why Reflectors struggle with self-trust✨ How rushing decisions leads to burnout✨ How their environment shapes their entire experience✨ Self-sabotage patterns at every age✨ Tools to help Reflectors regulate their nervous system✨ How to support Reflector kids, teens, and partners✨ And what thriving truly looks like for this rare energy typeA tender, validating, deeply supportive episode for Reflectors and anyone who loves one.

Projectors aren’t designed to keep up with the world’s pace, but most were conditioned to try.And the result? Burnout, resentment, emotional withdrawal, and a nervous system that’s constantly bracing for impact.In this episode, we explore:✨ The real reason Projectors fall into self-sabotage✨ Why over-proving and over-working feel like survival✨ How childhood conditioning wires them away from their natural brilliance✨ Signs a Projector is dysregulated✨ What thriving truly looks like for ProjectorsIf you’re a Projector, love a Projector, or are raising one, this episode will bring clarity, validation, and a deeper understanding of the incredible emotional world of this energy type.

Generators make up the largest Human Design energy type, and their power is unmatched when they’re aligned. But when they override their sacral responses, they fall into patterns of burnout, resentment, and confusion.In this episode, I break down:✨ The core self-sabotage patterns for Generators✨ Why saying yes out of obligation drains them✨ The difference between quiet and loud sacral excitement✨ How Generators can stop abandoning their truth✨ How to support Generator kids, teens, and adults✨ Personal stories about my generator daughter (quiet, reserved, deeply internal)✨ And my Generator son, whose love for football lights up the whole environmentThis episode is a must-listen for every Generator, and anyone who loves one.

In this episode we continue our Human Design & Self-Sabotage mini-series with the energy type known for speed, creativity, multitasking, and magnetic life-force: Manifesting Generators.Inside, we explore:✨ The MG patterns of quitting too early or staying too long✨ Why MGs overcommit during energetic highs✨ How skipping steps becomes sabotage✨ The emotional patterns behind burnout and shame✨ How MG kids, teens, and adults can break the cycle✨ Personal stories about my MG husband and MG daughterIf you’re an MG, or you love one, this episode will change the way you understand yourself (or them) forever.

We’re kicking off the Human Design & Self-Sabotage mini series by diving into Manifestors, the initiators, the fire-starters, the 9% of the population who are here to spark movements… yet often sabotage their own brilliance.In this episode, you’ll learn:✨ The real lived experience of Manifestors✨ Why anger is actually your compass✨ The top 5 sabotage patterns Manifestors fall into✨ How nervous system dysregulation fuels shutdown✨ What aligned Manifestors look like (and why it’s 🔥)✨ Tools to stop sabotaging and start leading againPlus, I share parts of my own Manifestor story, the places I’ve shrunk, and how reclaiming my design has been one of the most powerful shifts of my life.

Every child is wired differently, and understanding how their energy works might just change everything.In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, I unpack how to parent through the lens of Human Design, with real-life examples and insights for every energy type (Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, Reflector).Learn how to support your child’s nervous system, confidence, and natural rhythm, from toddlers to adult kids.Ready to dive deeper into your design? Send an inquiry to [email protected]

We’re wrapping up the Human Design mini-series with a powerful debrief: what we’ve learned, how to actually use it, and why understanding your energy type changes everything.In this episode, we are bringing together the five energy types — Manifestor, Generator, MG, Projector, and Reflector, and explores how to move from theory to embodiment.Because Human Design isn’t about labels , it’s about living with awareness, regulation, and self-trust.Ready for more?! Send me a DM on IG or email [email protected]

Reflectors make up just 1% of the population, the rarest and most mysterious of all Human Design types. In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, we explore what it means to live as a Reflector: the mirrors of humanity.Learn why their openness is both a gift and a challenge, how environment shapes their wellbeing, and how we can all embody the quiet, powerful wisdom they carry.

In this episode, we’re exploring the world of the Projector, the visionaries, guides, and energy seers of the Human Design system.Whether you are a Projector or you love one, this conversation will give you a whole new level of understanding for how they’re meant to move through life, and why rest, recognition, and right invitations aren’t luxuries… they’re requirements.We’ll talk about how Projectors are wired to see patterns that others miss, what leads them into burnout and self-doubt, and how they can reclaim their magic by slowing down, trusting their timing, and letting their wisdom be seen.Interested in learning more about Human Design, send me a DM !

This one’s for the Generators and Manifesting Generators. the world’s builders, doers, and multi-passionate creators.In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, we dive into what it means to live by your sacral response, how to stop forcing energy that isn’t yours, and why satisfaction — not success — is your real north star.You’ll also hear personal stories about raising two Generator kids, one MG kid and an MG husband, and what they’ve taught me about alignment, frustration, and joy.Curious about a full Human Deisgn Chat reading?! Send me a DM on IG or email [email protected]

Ever feel like you’re too much and not enough all at once?Like your energy doesn’t quite fit the mold everyone else seems to operate from?In this episode, I kick off a brand-new series exploring Human Design — starting with my own energy type: the Manifestor (which makes up roughly 9% of the population).I unpacks what Human Design actually is, where it came from, and how to find your own chart, but more importantly, I share how learning my design changed everything:💭 From second-guessing my ideas to finally trusting my creative bursts⚡ From pushing through burnout to embracing rest and cycles💔 From feeling like an outsider to understanding why I was never meant to fit inThis episode is an invitation to stop trying to fix yourself , and start remembering how you were designed to move through the world.And if you’re ready to dive deeper, I offer personalized Human Design readings to help you understand your unique blueprint, your energy type, and how to live in full alignment.✨ Listen now and start unlearning the version of you that was never broken.

We hit 100 episodes… so now what?! 🎉In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on what 100 episodes of The Unlearning Podcast has taught me, and where we’re going next. From the messy behind-the-scenes to the big lessons, and a sneak peek at the new mini-series ideas I’m dreaming up, this one’s equal parts reflective and exciting.Because 100 isn’t the finish line, it’s just the warm-up!Send me a DM on IG with your thoughts/ideas after listening!@iamshaynanaus

100 episodes. 100 conversations about healing, growth, and unlearning the conditioning that keeps us stuck.In this milestone episode, I’m reflecting on the biggest lessons I’ve learned so far:✨ Why your worth isn’t tied to productivity✨ How nervous system regulation is the foundation for lasting change✨ The power of rewriting the stories you tell yourself✨ And why community is the real medicineThis one is part reflection, part celebration, and part love letter to YOU, for being here, listening, and unlearning alongside me.

We all wear so many hats: daughter, partner, parent, friend, employee, boss, caregiver… the list goes on. But when the roles start to pile up, they can feel heavy, overwhelming, and even suffocating.In this episode, I’ll show you how to create more fluidity and ease in the way you carry your roles. We’ll talk about why roles don’t define your worth, how to navigate clashes between them, and simple tools to ground yourself in who you really are beneath it all.This one’s for anyone feeling pulled in a thousand directions.

Feeling the September pressure? In this episode, I’m breaking down how to ease back into structure and routine without slipping into hustle mode, over-scheduling, or beating yourself up. We’ll talk about why nervous system regulation is the antidote to “September pressure,” how to untangle worth from productivity, and simple grounding rituals that actually stick.This episode is your calm, compassionate guide to building momentum this season, without burning out.

Have you ever felt like you did everything “right”, got the job, the relationship, the family, the achievements, and still felt the emptiness inside? In this episode, we dig into why chasing validation and perfectionism never truly fill us, how your nervous system and brain wiring play into it, and the tools to shift from performing to truly living.If you’ve ever wondered, ‘Why don’t I feel fulfilled even though I’ve checked all the boxes?’ this episode is for you.

Ever feel like summer’s slipping away and you didn’t do enough? In this episode unedited, I’m breaking down why that “falling behind” feeling shows up, how social media + nervous system dysregulation feed it, and simple tools to savor the last days of summer without pressure. You don’t need to cram more in, you need a new way of being.

Ever find yourself deep in a scroll, suddenly questioning everything about your life? You're not alone — and you're not broken. In this episode, we break down how social media dysregulates the nervous system, fuels the not-enough loop, and keeps you stuck in self-doubt. Learn real tools to regulate, reconnect, and come back to your truth.🎧 Topics:Why scrolling triggers nervous system dysregulationHow comparison keeps your brain stuck in shameHow to shift from spiraling into self-ownership

Stuck in the cycle of trying new routines that never stick? You’re not broken, you’re just approaching it backward.In this episode, we unpack why productivity hacks and morning routines won’t change your life if they’re built on shame or nervous system dysregulation.You’ll learn:Why behavior change starts with identityHow to use nervous system tools + brain rewiring for real shiftsWhy you don’t need to “try harder,” you need to “be differently”This is your permission slip to stop performing and start becoming.

That voice in your head? The one that tells you you're not doing enough, not good enough, not productive enough, it’s not actually the problem. In this episode, we're unlearning the toxic relationship we’ve built with our inner critic and learning how to shift it using nervous system regulation and brain rewiring techniques.We’ll talk about:Why your inner critic exists in the first placeHow perfectionism + self-bullying become coping mechanismsHow to stop identifying with that voice — and start choosing new thought patterns that support your healingPractical tools to soften your inner world and move from self-pressure to self-trustThis isn’t about “positive vibes only” or pretending you don’t have hard thoughts. It’s about what you do when they come up. Let’s change the way we relate to ourselves, one small moment at a time.

“I’m not flexible enough.”“I’d feel so awkward.”“I’d probably look ridiculous.”Sound familiar?In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, we’re diving deep into the sneaky stories that stop us from trying new things, like yoga, and life, because of fear or judgment. If you’ve ever held yourself back out of fear you won’t fit in, this one’s for you.

In today's episode, we dive into the very real struggle of trying to make everyone happy in the summer, especially when you’re raising more than one child with completely different needs and personalities. You want to do it “right,” but let’s be real… it’s exhausting.If you’re feeling pulled in every direction, blaming yourself for not getting it perfect, or wondering if you’re doing enough, this one’s for you.Let’s unlearn the pressure and come back home to what really matters. You’ve got this.

Tired but can’t sleep? Motivated but frozen? Drowning in to-dos but can’t even start? You’re not lazy, you’re fried. In this episode of The Unlearning Podcast, we unpack the misunderstood signs of nervous system burnout, why you’ve been blaming yourself for a protective response, and what to do when your body is screaming “enough.”This is your gentle call back to compassion, rest, and realignment.Ready to take your healing to the next level?! Send me an email @ [email protected] or DM on IG: @iamshaynanaus

Are you actually changing... or just coping better? In this raw, honest episode, we explore the sneaky ways our healing journey can become another performance — and how to know if you're truly transforming or just surviving more beautifully. We’ll unpack the difference between managing symptoms and healing the root, why your brain prefers old patterns, and what real change actually looks like (hint: it’s not more self-help books). If you’ve been wondering why your inner growth still feels stuck, this one’s for you. Be sure to reach out and let me know how this one lands!

Feeling like you’re not doing enough this summer? Like everyone else is living their best life and you’re… just tired, trying, or holding it all together? This episode is for the woman who needs a reminder that her summer, in all its messy, quiet, imperfect glory, is more than enough. Let’s unlearn the pressure to perform and come back to presence.Ready for deeper work, send me and email [email protected]

Triggered? This episode is for the woman who’s tired of being hijacked by other people’s behavior — and ready to finally understand what her triggers are actually trying to teach her. If you’ve ever said “I would NEVER do that,” it might be time to ask: What part of me is still trying to be protected? This one is real, raw, and freeing.

Tired of feeling like your happiness depends on what’s happening around you? In this powerful episode of The Unlearning Podcast, we’re flipping the script on external chaos and reclaiming your inner peace.We dive into why building your own internal conditioning—your thoughts, emotions, nervous system, and mindset—is the real path to joy, even when the world feels loud, uncertain, or flat-out draining.You’ll walk away with practical tools and a new sense of empowerment to create peace that lasts—and that no one can take from you.✨ This is your reminder: happiness isn’t found out there. It’s something you train for.🎧 Let’s get into it.

You’ve read the books. You’ve binged the podcasts. You’ve taken the masterclasses. And yet… you still find yourself stuck in the same old cycles.This episode is for the woman who’s done all the “right” things in the self-help world—and still feels like nothing sticks. We’re diving into the truth behind why surface-level personal development often leads to burnout and disappointment, and what you really need to create lasting transformation. This is raw, honest, and the permission slip you didn’t know you needed.

Ever feel like you're doing the work—healing, growing, regulating your nervous system—only to be pulled into the chaos, drama, or negativity of the people around you?This episode is for the person who's trying to protect their peace in a world that seems addicted to noise. We talk about energy, boundaries, and the powerful ways you can stay grounded—no matter what room you walk into.Whether it’s your workplace, your family, or even your social circle… you can hold your center. And you might just inspire change in the process.

Feeling like everyone else has it figured out, and change just feels too hard? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this real and raw episode, I’m unpacking the hidden stories that keep us stuck, why believing “it’s easier for everyone else” is one of the most dangerous beliefs you can carry, and what it actually takes to create change. If you’re ready for some tough love and big inspiration, hit play now.And if you're ready to connect deeper, now's the time! Send me a DM on IGor email at [email protected]

Expanding my business to open my dream studio has been beautiful—but not without doubts, sweat, and emotional waves. In this episode, I share the truth behind what it really takes to bring a dream to life (and why it’s okay to question it all along the way).Want to connect? Send me a DM on IG