3RF All About The Health Podcast

Welcome back to another episode of the 3RF All About The Health Podcast. I'm your host Coach Kyle, and today we're gonna piss a few people off... but hopefully save you a pile of frustration at the grocery store.Because every damn week...I hear the exact same thing."Kyle... I just want to get toned."Awesome.Then I ask..."How much protein are you eating?"...Silence.Or my favourite answer..."I dunno... I eat pretty healthy."The fuck does that even mean anymore?Healthy according to who?Instagram?Karen from accounting?Some influencer who says blueberries cure trauma and celery juice aligns your fucking chakras?We've completely bastardized what healthy eating actually means.People think because something says "organic," "natural," "whole grain," or "made with love by woodland elves," that somehow it's automatically helping them build muscle.Meanwhile...They're getting maybe 40 grams of protein a day.

Today we're going to talk about one of the most misunderstood numbers in the entire health industry.BMI.Body Mass Index.And honestly...I think it's responsible for confusing millions of people.Now before anyone comes after me...I'm not saying BMI is completely useless.I'm saying people use it in situations it was never designed for.And that's where things go sideways.Because according to the BMI chart...I'm obese.Class One Obese.At 247 pounds.Now here's the funny part.If you walked into my gym today and somebody asked,"Who's the obese guy?"I don't think anyone would point at me.Not because I'm special.But because labels without context are dangerous as hell.And that's exactly what BMI has become.So let's talk about it.

Today we're talking about one of the biggest reasons people struggle to lose weight.And no...It's not carbs.It's not sugar.It's not your metabolism.It's not that your body "just won't lose weight."It's something way simpler than that.You're trying to solve a math problem...By fucking guessing.

I want to start today with something that might piss you off.Smart people change their mind quickly.Everyone else...Defends their old bullshit like it pays their rent.Think about that for a second.Because I reckon every single one of us has done it.Including me.Especially me.We tell ourselves these little stories..."I'm not a morning person.""I'm just bad with money.""I've always struggled with my weight.""I'm terrible at consistency.""I don't have discipline.""I'm just an anxious person.""I'm not confident."And after you've repeated that story enough...It stops sounding like an opinion.It starts sounding like a fact.You stop questioning it.You build your entire life around it.And before you know it...You've built a prison...Out of your own fucking sentences.

I had one of those moments the other day that just stopped me in my tracks.One of my mates messaged me."Wanna go Seadooing?"That was it.No planning.No overthinking.No three-week discussion in the group chat.Just..."Wanna go Seadooing?"About half an hour later we were absolutely ripping around Okanagan Lake like a couple of oversized children who somehow convinced themselves this counted as being responsible adults.

Today I want to ask you a question that honestly pissed me off when somebody first asked me.How leadable are you?Seriously...How fucking leadable are you?Because everyone says they want to improve.Everybody wants to lose weight.Everybody wants a better relationship.Everybody wants more money.Everybody wants to build confidence.But here's what I've noticed...Very few people actually want to be told they're wrong.They want results...As long as the path to those results agrees with everything they already believe.And that's not how life works.

Today's episode is a little different.Two years ago today, we packed up our lives and moved to Kelowna.And honestly...I almost didn't do it.I remember that drive like it was yesterday.The car was absolutely jammed.Everything I owned was crammed into it.My son Jude was asleep in the back.My dog was asleep.I'm driving through the mountains looking around thinking..."What the fuck are you doing?"You know those moments where you're too far in to turn around...But not far enough to know if you've completely fucked your life up?That was me.Because here's the thing...People love talking about taking risks after they've worked out.Nobody talks about what it actually feels like in the middle of one.It doesn't feel inspiring.It doesn't feel exciting.It feels like anxiety wearing a motivational T-shirt.You're sitting there trying to convince yourself you've made the right decision while your brain is listing every possible way this could end in disaster.And mine did a bloody good job."What if this doesn't work?""What if the business falls apart?""What if Jude hates it?""What if we don't make friends?""What if we have to move back?"Your brain is an absolute prick sometimes.It thinks it's protecting you.

Most people stay overweight...Not because they aren't trying...Not because they don't know what to eat...But because they're trying to become fit by fucking Friday.We live in a society where people expect twenty years of habits to disappear after three weeks of meal prep.And when that doesn't happen...They think they're broken.You're not broken.You're impatient.And that's exactly what we're diving into today.

Today we're talking about one of the biggest lies people tell themselves..."I eat pretty healthy."Or..."I don't really eat that bad."Or my personal favourite..."I buy all the healthy stuff at Costco."Cool...So why the fuck hasn't anything changed?Seriously.If eating "healthy" was all it took to lose body fat......you'd already be walking around with abs.Today's episode isn't about telling you healthy food is bad.It's about understanding why healthy food and fat loss are not the same thing.Because once you understand this...Everything becomes so much easier.

Are you actually living your life according to a plan...Or are you just reacting to whatever the hell happens next?Because if we're being honest, most people spend their entire lives in reaction mode.Something comes up.They react.A problem happens.They react.A friend invites them out.They react.A stressful day at work.They react.And then years later they wonder why they aren't where they wanted to be.Well...Because if you're constantly reacting to life, life is the one driving the damn car.And most of the time it doesn't know where it's going either.

Today we're talking about something that I think quietly destroys more health journeys than bad diets, bad workouts, or bad information ever could.And that's the fact that most people have absolutely no separation between who they are and what they do.Meaning the second they make a mistake...They don't criticize the behavior.They criticize themselves.And those are two completely different things.So let me hit you with an analogy.Because you know I love my analogies.Listen in to hear it! 

Today we're talking about one of the biggest reasons people struggle with nutrition.And no...It's not carbs.It's not sugar.It's not fast food.It's not that you lack motivation.It's because somewhere along the way we've started making food mean a bunch of shit it was never supposed to mean.Let me show you what I mean.

Today we're talking about one of the most common goals I hear from people.And I mean...every damn day.I sit down on a discovery call and ask:"So what are your goals?"And almost every single time the answer is:"I want to lose weight and tone up."Now before anyone gets defensive, that's not a bad goal.It's just that most people don't actually understand what they're saying.Because weight loss and toning are not the same thing.In fact, they're often pulling in completely different directions.It's kind of like saying:"I want to spend less money while buying more stuff."Can it happen? Maybe.But we should probably understand what's actually going on first.So let's break this down.

The Health Podcast.Today is a special one.Because as of right now...I am officially 16 weeks out from stepping on stage at my first international bodybuilding show.And honestly?Even saying those words out loud feels absolutely insane.Because this September I'll be heading to Texas to compete at the Summer Shredding Championship.The biggest bodybuilding event I've ever been a part of.The biggest stage I've ever stepped on.

Today I want to talk about something that honestly blew my mind this week.Not nutrition.Not training.Not fat loss.But something that is quietly screwing with almost every single person's self-worth.Social media.Now before you think this is going to be some old man yelling at clouds type of episode, that's not where we're going.I use social media every day.My business exists because of social media.I've met incredible people because of social media.But I think we've become so immersed in it that we've completely lost our sense of reality.And I had a conversation with a client this week that perfectly illustrates what I mean.

Today we're talking about one of the most misunderstood things in nutrition...Carbohydrates.Because holy shit...If I had a dollar for every time someone told me carbs made them fat, I'd probably own a private island by now.Apparently rice is public enemy number one.Potatoes are apparently trying to assassinate your abs.And fruit has somehow become a gateway drug to obesity.Meanwhile people are crushing three Starbucks drinks, sitting for twelve hours a day, sleeping four hours a night...But yes...Let's continue blaming the fucking banana.

Today I want to talk about one of the simplest fat loss concepts I've ever taught...And honestly, once people understand it, nutrition becomes about 500% less stressful.Because the truth is...Most people would NEVER handle their money the way they handle their calories.If they did?They'd be bankrupt by Wednesday and living in a cardboard box behind Walmart.

Most people approach fat loss the exact same way lottery winners approach money.And THAT is why so many people lose weight… only to gain every damn pound back later.Because losing something fast… doesn’t automatically teach you how to KEEP it.

Today we’re simplifying nutrition because holy fuck has the internet made this shit confusing.One person says carbs are killing you. Another says seed oils are the devil. Someone else is surviving off air fryer steak and emotional damage.Meanwhile half the population is just trying to lose 20 pounds without crying in a Costco parking lot.So today… I’m breaking nutrition down into the 3 easiest categories possible:Calories = your weight. Macros = how you look. Micros = how you feel.

This one needs to be talked about because holy shit…People have made food WAY too emotionally dramatic.I did a live the other day and someone commented:“Well… I eat healthy.”And I had to stop for a second because…What the fuck does that even mean anymore? 😂Seriously.Healthy according to WHO?

This episode is probably gonna hit a little different today.Because last night honestly hit me harder than I expected.I dropped my son Jude off for his high school graduation…And stood there watching my little boy walk toward one of the biggest milestones of his life.And I’m telling you right now…That shit rocked me.

This one’s personal as hell.Because emotional eating consumed me for YEARS.And no…It wasn’t just because I “loved food too much.”…Okay maybe a little bit 😅But the food itself?That wasn’t really the problem.The 400lb version of me felt…Unloved. Unwanted. Inadequate.And I didn’t know how to deal with that shit.So every night…After everyone went to bed…I’d attack the fridge like a horny raccoon digging through garbage at 2am.Because for 10 minutes…Food shut my brain the fuck up.

This episode came from something that hit me hard on a hike recently.And honestly?I think this is one of the biggest reasons people struggle to stay consistent with fitness long term.Because people get OBSESSED with trying to LOOK fit…But they don’t actually live a life that requires them to BE fit.

Alright…I’m gonna slap you with some truth today.And you might not like it.But if you actually take it in?This could be the moment things finally start changing for you.So here it is…A lot of your problems?Yeah…You had a hand in that shit. 😬

Alright… this one might sting a little.But if you actually hear me out… This might be one of the most valuable skills you ever develop.Knowing when to shut the fuck up.

Alright… I already know this one’s gonna hit some nerves.Because if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought:“Why isn’t this shit working?!” “Why am I not losing weight yet?!” “This is fucking bullshit…”Yeah… this episode is for you.Let’s call it what it is…Most people aren’t patient with their body…They’re pissed the fuck off at it.Like your body is some lazy employee that just refuses to do its job.Meanwhile your body is sitting there like:“Fak sakes homie… I don’t even understand what the fuck you’re asking me to do.” 🤨Here’s the truth nobody wants to hear…You and your body?You’re speaking two completely different fucking languages.