3RF All About The Health Podcast

Ladies...We gotta talk.Because if you've started lifting weights and the scale isn't dropping as quickly as you expected...Please stop immediately assuming..."THIS ISN'T FUCKING WORKING."I see this constantly with women I coach.Your jeans fit better.Your waist is getting smaller.Your legs have more shape.Your shoulders are starting to pop.You're lifting weights you couldn't fucking touch eight weeks ago.Then you step on the scale...Same number.And suddenly none of that matters.Full emotional breakdown."The program isn't working.""I'm doing something wrong.""Maybe I need to eat less."Hold the fuck up.Because you're letting one measurement overrule every other piece of evidence your body is giving you.

I've got a simple question for you today.Every time your weight stops moving, does your coach immediately cut your food?Scale didn't drop?Eat less.Didn't drop again?Eat even less.Still didn't drop?Somehow now it's your fucking fault.If that's your entire coaching experience...I don't know how much coaching is actually happening.Because before I start taking food away from somebody, I want to know why the data looks the way it does.

I've got a statement today that's probably going to piss some people off.And that's okay.Because sometimes the conversation you don't particularly enjoy hearing...Is the one you probably fucking need.So here it is:If you keep saying..."I really want to get in shape.""I really want to lose weight.""I really want to start taking care of myself."But month after month...Year after year...Your actions don't reflect that...Maybe it's time to stop saying you don't have time.Maybe it's time to admit...It just hasn't become important enough to you yet.Ouch.I know.But stick with me.Because I'm not saying you're lazy.I'm not saying you don't have responsibilities.And I'm definitely not saying everybody has the same amount of free time.I'm saying there's a massive difference between wanting something...And making something a priority.And understanding that difference might finally get you moving.

I'm recording this episode exactly 20 days out from stepping on stage at the Summer Shredding Championships in Houston, Texas.It's the biggest show I've ever done.There's a $100,000 grand prize on the line.And right now...I'm the leanest I've ever been in my entire fucking life.Which is exciting.It's terrifying.And if I'm being completely transparent...It's also a complete mind fuck.Because sometimes I look in the mirror right now...And I genuinely don't recognize the person looking back at me.Not because I've never seen somebody lean before.But because for most of my life...That wasn't who I believed I was.For most of my life...I knew myself as the guy who weighed over 400 pounds.And it turns out...Your body can change a hell of a lot faster than the image you've carried of yourself for most of your life.So today...I want to talk about that.

Today's conversation is one I've been really fucking excited about because my guest and I have something pretty unique in common.We've both lived in bodies that were hundreds of pounds heavier than they are today.We've both gone through massive transformations.We've both stepped into the bodybuilding world.And eventually, we both took those experiences and started helping other people change their lives.But we took very different roads to get there.My guest today is Arthur Shadwick, better known online as The Restart Coach and MyPurposeFit.Arthur has an incredible story that includes reaching over 500 pounds, bariatric surgery, losing more than 300 pounds, becoming a bodybuilder, and eventually becoming a coach himself.But today I don't just want to talk about how Arthur lost weight.I want to talk about the shit the before-and-after pictures don't show.Food.Addiction.Identity..Purpose.Weight-loss surgery.Bodybuilding.And what happens psychologically when you become someone you probably couldn't have imagined becoming years earlier.

I want you to picture two photos of me.Same spot.Same cool motherfucker.Taken exactly two years apart.In the first photo...I weigh 245.2 pounds.Two years later, I step on the scale again...245.2 pounds.Exact.Same.Fucking.Weight.But if I put those two photos beside each other...I look like a completely different person.My body composition changed.More muscle.Less body fat.Smaller in some places.Bigger in the places I wanted to grow.Yet if the only information I gave you was the bathroom scale...You'd conclude that I made zero progress in two years.And this is exactly why obsessing over nothing but scale weight is fucking so many people over.So today I want to talk about what the scale actually tells you, what it completely misses, and why building the body you actually want can take a hell of a lot longer than Instagram would have you believe.

Today I want to talk about what might be one of the biggest fucking gaslights in the food world.Organic food.Because somewhere along the way we collectively decided...ORGANIC = HEALTHY.And...CONVENTIONAL = CHEMICAL-PACKED DEATH.You walk into the grocery store and there are regular strawberries for four bucks...Then sitting three feet away are the organic strawberries for nine.And because they’re organic, we immediately think...“Well, obviously those are better for me.”But are they?The answer is a hell of a lot more nuanced than Instagram makes it sound.And more importantly...If you’re spending so much money trying to make your nutrition perfect that you’ve convinced yourself eating healthy is unaffordable...We’ve completely missed the fucking point.

Today we’re talking about one of the biggest reasons people lose weight...Then gain the fucking thing right back.And it’s not because they’re lazy.It’s not because their metabolism suddenly broke.It’s not because carbs hunted them down six months later.It’s because they treated health like it had a finish line.“Just gotta lose 30 pounds.”“Just gotta get ready for summer.”“Just gotta tone this tummy.”Then they finally hit whatever number they decided mattered...And suddenly...DIET’S OVER, BITCHES.The food scale goes back into the cupboard.Gym goes from five days a week to...“Why the fuck am I still paying for this membership?”And that one weekly treat meal slowly turns into Friday night...Then Saturday...Then apparently Sunday brunch counts too because life is short.Fast-forward six months...And now we’re saying...“I just don’t understand what happened.”I do.You stopped doing the shit that made it work.

Today I want to talk about scales.Because if there's one scale I want you obsessing over during a fat-loss journey...It's the one in your fucking kitchen.Not the one in your bathroom.Now...That doesn't mean I think weighing yourself is useless.Actually, I think both scales can be incredibly valuable.But they have two completely different jobs.The problem is...Most people completely ignore the scale that gives them something they can actually control...And have an emotional fucking breakdown over the one that doesn't.So let's talk about it.

Something I find really fucking weird is that somewhere along the way society collectively decided..."Getting in shape gets harder because you're older."You're 25?No problem.You're 35?Metabolism is slowing down.You're 40?Good fucking luck.You're 50?Apparently your metabolism packed its bags and left the country.And I call bullshit.Well...Mostly bullshit.Because there's actually some really cool research showing that your metabolism doesn't suddenly fall off a cliff when you hit 30, 35, or 40.But getting in shape can absolutely feel harder.The reason why has a lot less to do with your age...And a hell of a lot more to do with your life.So let's talk about it.

Today we're talking about one of the biggest reasons people stay stuck with their health...They're using the wrong fucking tool.Every time I make a post about nutrition, I can guarantee the comments are going to fill up with the same suggestions."Don't forget intermittent fasting.""Apple cider vinegar changed my life.""You need cold plunges.""Go carnivore.""No, no... seed oils are why everyone's fat."And every single time, I sit there thinking...What in the actual fuck are we doing?Now before anyone loses their mind...I'm not saying any of those things are inherently bad.Some of them can absolutely be useful.The problem is people have become obsessed with collecting tools instead of solving problems.

Today I'm going to say something that's probably going to piss some people off...You're probably not addicted to sugar.I know... some of you are already rolling your eyes because you've been telling yourself—or hearing from everyone else—that sugar is basically as addictive as cocaine.But let's unpack what the research actually says.Because if we get this wrong, we end up fighting the wrong battle.And when you understand what's really happening, it becomes a hell of a lot easier to take control of your eating habits.

Welcome back to another episode of the 3RF All About The Health Podcast.I’m your host, Coach Kyle.And today, I want to answer a question I’ve been asked more than a few times over the years.Usually by someone who has stumbled across my page, watched me make an absolute ass of myself in a public gym and thought…“Isn’t this guy supposed to be a fitness coach?”Fair question.Because if you scroll through my content, you might see me teaching fat loss.You might see me talking about protein.You might see me explaining progressive overload, recovery, calorie deficits or muscle growth.Then the next video is me dressed like a complete idiot, yelling in a gym, acting out some ridiculous client scenario or making jokes that probably shouldn’t have survived the editing process.And naturally, people ask…“Why do you make so much comedy content if you’re a fitness coach?”Well…Because I fucking love it.But there’s a much bigger reason than that.I genuinely believe comedy makes fitness more accessible.It makes coaches more approachable.It helps people learn.It helps people feel less alone.And most importantly…It helps remove some of the elitist bullshit that has made health and fitness feel like it only belongs to certain people.So today, I want to talk about why comedy has become such a massive part of my content, my coaching and the entire 3RF brand.Because this was never just about trying to get views.It was about helping more people feel like health could actually be for them.Let’s get into it.

Welcome back to another episode of the 3RF All About The Health Podcast. I'm your host Coach Kyle, and today we're gonna piss a few people off... but hopefully save you a pile of frustration at the grocery store.Because every damn week...I hear the exact same thing."Kyle... I just want to get toned."Awesome.Then I ask..."How much protein are you eating?"...Silence.Or my favourite answer..."I dunno... I eat pretty healthy."The fuck does that even mean anymore?Healthy according to who?Instagram?Karen from accounting?Some influencer who says blueberries cure trauma and celery juice aligns your fucking chakras?We've completely bastardized what healthy eating actually means.People think because something says "organic," "natural," "whole grain," or "made with love by woodland elves," that somehow it's automatically helping them build muscle.Meanwhile...They're getting maybe 40 grams of protein a day.

Today we're going to talk about one of the most misunderstood numbers in the entire health industry.BMI.Body Mass Index.And honestly...I think it's responsible for confusing millions of people.Now before anyone comes after me...I'm not saying BMI is completely useless.I'm saying people use it in situations it was never designed for.And that's where things go sideways.Because according to the BMI chart...I'm obese.Class One Obese.At 247 pounds.Now here's the funny part.If you walked into my gym today and somebody asked,"Who's the obese guy?"I don't think anyone would point at me.Not because I'm special.But because labels without context are dangerous as hell.And that's exactly what BMI has become.So let's talk about it.

Today we're talking about one of the biggest reasons people struggle to lose weight.And no...It's not carbs.It's not sugar.It's not your metabolism.It's not that your body "just won't lose weight."It's something way simpler than that.You're trying to solve a math problem...By fucking guessing.

I want to start today with something that might piss you off.Smart people change their mind quickly.Everyone else...Defends their old bullshit like it pays their rent.Think about that for a second.Because I reckon every single one of us has done it.Including me.Especially me.We tell ourselves these little stories..."I'm not a morning person.""I'm just bad with money.""I've always struggled with my weight.""I'm terrible at consistency.""I don't have discipline.""I'm just an anxious person.""I'm not confident."And after you've repeated that story enough...It stops sounding like an opinion.It starts sounding like a fact.You stop questioning it.You build your entire life around it.And before you know it...You've built a prison...Out of your own fucking sentences.

I had one of those moments the other day that just stopped me in my tracks.One of my mates messaged me."Wanna go Seadooing?"That was it.No planning.No overthinking.No three-week discussion in the group chat.Just..."Wanna go Seadooing?"About half an hour later we were absolutely ripping around Okanagan Lake like a couple of oversized children who somehow convinced themselves this counted as being responsible adults.

Today I want to ask you a question that honestly pissed me off when somebody first asked me.How leadable are you?Seriously...How fucking leadable are you?Because everyone says they want to improve.Everybody wants to lose weight.Everybody wants a better relationship.Everybody wants more money.Everybody wants to build confidence.But here's what I've noticed...Very few people actually want to be told they're wrong.They want results...As long as the path to those results agrees with everything they already believe.And that's not how life works.

Today's episode is a little different.Two years ago today, we packed up our lives and moved to Kelowna.And honestly...I almost didn't do it.I remember that drive like it was yesterday.The car was absolutely jammed.Everything I owned was crammed into it.My son Jude was asleep in the back.My dog was asleep.I'm driving through the mountains looking around thinking..."What the fuck are you doing?"You know those moments where you're too far in to turn around...But not far enough to know if you've completely fucked your life up?That was me.Because here's the thing...People love talking about taking risks after they've worked out.Nobody talks about what it actually feels like in the middle of one.It doesn't feel inspiring.It doesn't feel exciting.It feels like anxiety wearing a motivational T-shirt.You're sitting there trying to convince yourself you've made the right decision while your brain is listing every possible way this could end in disaster.And mine did a bloody good job."What if this doesn't work?""What if the business falls apart?""What if Jude hates it?""What if we don't make friends?""What if we have to move back?"Your brain is an absolute prick sometimes.It thinks it's protecting you.

Most people stay overweight...Not because they aren't trying...Not because they don't know what to eat...But because they're trying to become fit by fucking Friday.We live in a society where people expect twenty years of habits to disappear after three weeks of meal prep.And when that doesn't happen...They think they're broken.You're not broken.You're impatient.And that's exactly what we're diving into today.

Today we're talking about one of the biggest lies people tell themselves..."I eat pretty healthy."Or..."I don't really eat that bad."Or my personal favourite..."I buy all the healthy stuff at Costco."Cool...So why the fuck hasn't anything changed?Seriously.If eating "healthy" was all it took to lose body fat......you'd already be walking around with abs.Today's episode isn't about telling you healthy food is bad.It's about understanding why healthy food and fat loss are not the same thing.Because once you understand this...Everything becomes so much easier.

Are you actually living your life according to a plan...Or are you just reacting to whatever the hell happens next?Because if we're being honest, most people spend their entire lives in reaction mode.Something comes up.They react.A problem happens.They react.A friend invites them out.They react.A stressful day at work.They react.And then years later they wonder why they aren't where they wanted to be.Well...Because if you're constantly reacting to life, life is the one driving the damn car.And most of the time it doesn't know where it's going either.

Today we're talking about something that I think quietly destroys more health journeys than bad diets, bad workouts, or bad information ever could.And that's the fact that most people have absolutely no separation between who they are and what they do.Meaning the second they make a mistake...They don't criticize the behavior.They criticize themselves.And those are two completely different things.So let me hit you with an analogy.Because you know I love my analogies.Listen in to hear it! 

Today we're talking about one of the biggest reasons people struggle with nutrition.And no...It's not carbs.It's not sugar.It's not fast food.It's not that you lack motivation.It's because somewhere along the way we've started making food mean a bunch of shit it was never supposed to mean.Let me show you what I mean.

Today we're talking about one of the most common goals I hear from people.And I mean...every damn day.I sit down on a discovery call and ask:"So what are your goals?"And almost every single time the answer is:"I want to lose weight and tone up."Now before anyone gets defensive, that's not a bad goal.It's just that most people don't actually understand what they're saying.Because weight loss and toning are not the same thing.In fact, they're often pulling in completely different directions.It's kind of like saying:"I want to spend less money while buying more stuff."Can it happen? Maybe.But we should probably understand what's actually going on first.So let's break this down.

The Health Podcast.Today is a special one.Because as of right now...I am officially 16 weeks out from stepping on stage at my first international bodybuilding show.And honestly?Even saying those words out loud feels absolutely insane.Because this September I'll be heading to Texas to compete at the Summer Shredding Championship.The biggest bodybuilding event I've ever been a part of.The biggest stage I've ever stepped on.

Today I want to talk about something that honestly blew my mind this week.Not nutrition.Not training.Not fat loss.But something that is quietly screwing with almost every single person's self-worth.Social media.Now before you think this is going to be some old man yelling at clouds type of episode, that's not where we're going.I use social media every day.My business exists because of social media.I've met incredible people because of social media.But I think we've become so immersed in it that we've completely lost our sense of reality.And I had a conversation with a client this week that perfectly illustrates what I mean.

Today we're talking about one of the most misunderstood things in nutrition...Carbohydrates.Because holy shit...If I had a dollar for every time someone told me carbs made them fat, I'd probably own a private island by now.Apparently rice is public enemy number one.Potatoes are apparently trying to assassinate your abs.And fruit has somehow become a gateway drug to obesity.Meanwhile people are crushing three Starbucks drinks, sitting for twelve hours a day, sleeping four hours a night...But yes...Let's continue blaming the fucking banana.

Today I want to talk about one of the simplest fat loss concepts I've ever taught...And honestly, once people understand it, nutrition becomes about 500% less stressful.Because the truth is...Most people would NEVER handle their money the way they handle their calories.If they did?They'd be bankrupt by Wednesday and living in a cardboard box behind Walmart.

Most people approach fat loss the exact same way lottery winners approach money.And THAT is why so many people lose weight… only to gain every damn pound back later.Because losing something fast… doesn’t automatically teach you how to KEEP it.

Today we’re simplifying nutrition because holy fuck has the internet made this shit confusing.One person says carbs are killing you. Another says seed oils are the devil. Someone else is surviving off air fryer steak and emotional damage.Meanwhile half the population is just trying to lose 20 pounds without crying in a Costco parking lot.So today… I’m breaking nutrition down into the 3 easiest categories possible:Calories = your weight. Macros = how you look. Micros = how you feel.

This one needs to be talked about because holy shit…People have made food WAY too emotionally dramatic.I did a live the other day and someone commented:“Well… I eat healthy.”And I had to stop for a second because…What the fuck does that even mean anymore? 😂Seriously.Healthy according to WHO?

This episode is probably gonna hit a little different today.Because last night honestly hit me harder than I expected.I dropped my son Jude off for his high school graduation…And stood there watching my little boy walk toward one of the biggest milestones of his life.And I’m telling you right now…That shit rocked me.

This one’s personal as hell.Because emotional eating consumed me for YEARS.And no…It wasn’t just because I “loved food too much.”…Okay maybe a little bit 😅But the food itself?That wasn’t really the problem.The 400lb version of me felt…Unloved. Unwanted. Inadequate.And I didn’t know how to deal with that shit.So every night…After everyone went to bed…I’d attack the fridge like a horny raccoon digging through garbage at 2am.Because for 10 minutes…Food shut my brain the fuck up.

This episode came from something that hit me hard on a hike recently.And honestly?I think this is one of the biggest reasons people struggle to stay consistent with fitness long term.Because people get OBSESSED with trying to LOOK fit…But they don’t actually live a life that requires them to BE fit.

Alright…I’m gonna slap you with some truth today.And you might not like it.But if you actually take it in?This could be the moment things finally start changing for you.So here it is…A lot of your problems?Yeah…You had a hand in that shit. 😬

Alright… this one might sting a little.But if you actually hear me out… This might be one of the most valuable skills you ever develop.Knowing when to shut the fuck up.

Alright… I already know this one’s gonna hit some nerves.Because if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought:“Why isn’t this shit working?!” “Why am I not losing weight yet?!” “This is fucking bullshit…”Yeah… this episode is for you.Let’s call it what it is…Most people aren’t patient with their body…They’re pissed the fuck off at it.Like your body is some lazy employee that just refuses to do its job.Meanwhile your body is sitting there like:“Fak sakes homie… I don’t even understand what the fuck you’re asking me to do.” 🤨Here’s the truth nobody wants to hear…You and your body?You’re speaking two completely different fucking languages.