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PsycHacks — 664 episodes
Episode 657: When empathy is evil (Lindsay Clancy)
Episode 656: Cultivating need (keep her busy)
Episode 655: Finding good women (how to test them)
Episode 654: 90% love (don't go all the way)
Episode 653: She ain't yours (she's yours for now)
Episode 652: Emotions are resources (what players understand)
Episode 651: Women are the brakes (men drive progress)
Episode 650: Effort doesn't pay (no one cares about your struggle)
Episode 649: Love is hard (why it is rare)
Episode 648: You like toxic (the real reason you go back)
Episode 647: How to be physically attractive (the five principles)
Episode 646: Love the label (put yourself in a box)
Episode 645: Looksmaxxing (why it's going viral)
Episode 644: Love mobs (they don't work for women)
Episode 643: Haters are good (how being disliked helps you)
Episode 642: Forget it (have a short memory)
Episode 641: Paying to play (the two exceptions)
Episode 640: Your past (moving forward from pain)
Episode 639: Obedience (a model for women)
Episode 638: Love bombing (the two budgets)
Episode 637: Never restore a woman (don't take her back)
Episode 636: Your best life (an ideal Tuesday)
Episode 635: Women are endurance hunters (stop running from her)
Episode 634: The death of speech (why we need men)
Episode 633: Love cheats (the unfaithful spouse)
Episode 632: The gift of your absence (if you can't leave)
Episode 631: A million dollar dream (it's worth the work)
Episode 630: A means to an end (three lessons)
Episode 629: Wanting a wife (the secretary problem)
Episode 628: Smart people are happy (understanding intelligence)
Episode 627: Just be yourself (the best and worst advice)
Episode 626: Wounds (your greatest gift)
Episode 625: Detach (how men show up)
Episode 624: The samurai (a model for men)
Episode 623: How women win (happy hunting)
Episode 622: The bird test (responding to women)
Episode 621: Bonding (what nature can teach us)
Episode 620: The end of thought (you can't talk to some people)
Episode 619: Timing (why people get married)
Episode 618: Men have a culture (it needs to be preserved)
Episode 617: I don't need a man (how women use men)
Episode 616: She'll wait (why she won't forget about you)
Episode 615: Disagreeable women (the duty to follow)
Episode 614: Use the city (get in, get out)
Episode 613: Give him the money (women don't share)
Episode 612: Make your own mistakes (you have a right to your pain)
Episode 611: The diamond mine (men are the prize)
Episode 610: Turning it around (how to start winning in life)
Episode 609: Performative masculinity (it's not what you think)
Episode 608: You do not need entertainment (how to get more done)
Episode 607: Protecting against gold diggers (show them the money)
Episode 606: The time to live (your second birthday)
Episode 605: Let men solve problems (he's not your girlfriend)
Episode 604: Optimization fatigue (why you feel worse as you get better)
Episode 603: Bad boys (why women want them)
Episode 602: How to get over an ex (the two best strategies)
Episode 601: A useful eight (my ideal woman)
Episode 600: Cheap sex (it's not all bad)
Episode 599: She who cries wolf (is she seeing clearly?
Episode 598: Relaxing into her feminine (the soft life)
Episode 597: Sex isn't special (feelings don't count)
Episode 596: An ordinary life (it's not for everyone)
Episode 595: Height (tall men have it easy)
Episode 594: The democratic lie (we are not created equal)
Episode 593: His money is my money (modern slavery)
Episode 592: Why you were lied to (and why it hurts so much)
Episode 591: You are a killer (dominate your mind)
Episode 590: Why the world is falling apart (turning down the genie)
Episode 589: The female idol (the corruption of dating)
Episode 588: Love and justice (order and chaos)
Episode 587: The reality of modern family (what's the point?)
Episode 586: What do you want to have for dinner? (no straight answers)
Episode 585: Women are dirty (understanding their dark desires)
Episode 584: Become a monster (owning your darkness)
Episode 583: Staying at home (no one wants to do it)
Episode 582: Women walking away (are men to blame?)
Episode 581: Sex and attention (the most reinforcing good)
Episode 580: Modern women (you can't have it both ways)
Episode 579: Death of the lady (where are all the real men?)
Episode 578: Is having a boyfriend embarrassing? (single is not a flex)
Episode 577: Get better (advice for men)
Episode 576: She takes and takes (why he feels used)
Episode 575: The ring test (love and business)
Episode 574: How to find yourself (understanding what you really want)
Episode 573: Body count (beyond the number)
Episode 572: The love trap (she can't fix you)
Episode 571: How relationships work (on value)
Episode 570: You can't cheat yourself (understanding self love)
Episode 569: Man up (for the benefit of women)
Episode 568: My new book (why you should read it)
Episode 567: If he wanted to (maybe he would)
Episode 566: The primary lie (you can't always get what you want)
Episode 565: As little as possible (why men need to do the bare minimum)
Episode 564: Garden tools (how to capture male attention)
Episode 563: The prison planet (the nature of existence)
Episode 562: Bait your hook (how will you be used?)
Episode 561: The spark (dating for feels)
Episode 560: Dread (understanding evil)
Episode 559: She can cry (how to deal with an emotional woman)
Episode 558: You are a parking space (how to suffer less)
Episode 557: The look (speak with your eyes)
Episode 556: The art of surrender (how to let go)
Episode 555: AI relationships (the future of dating)
Episode 554: Becoming a real woman (the Scarlett effect)
Episode 553: The price of safety (the man or the bear)
Episode 552: Don't chase (the power of attractiveness)
Episode 551: Why women get ghosted (they're not worth it)
Episode 550: Ask her out (the two bridges)
Episode 549: No one-night stands (how not to find your husband)
Episode 548: Don't waste her time (how women set themselves up to fail)
Episode 547: The core of respect (approaching the O word)
Episode 546: Getting vs. keeping (emotional labor in dating)
Episode 545: Don't be her option (why you get left on read)
Episode 544: Go f**k myself (how to accelerate your growth)
Episode 543: Why men lose interest in sex: Love (where men love they do not desire)
Episode 542: The magic ring (marriage isn't the answer)
Episode 541: Why men lose interest in sex: Habituation (the allure of the new)
Episode 540: Spilling the tea (why men will walk away)
Episode 539: Pet or partner? (you can't have it both ways)
Episode 538: Sex is about power (the fantasy of most men)
Episode 537: All men are incels (the bitter truth)
Episode 536: Everything is about sex (the true power of male desire)
Episode 535: Why men lose interest in sex: Familiarity (why closeness kills attraction)
Episode 534: Her only competition (why men end up in bad relationships)
Episode 533: Male cheating and female cheating (what makes them different)
Episode 532: Estranged fathers (dealing with parental alienation)
Episode 531: How I know what women want (their feelings don't matter)
Episode 530: All I want... (the problem with dating today)
Episode 529: Stop short or go long (the two paths to a relationship)
Episode 528: No one is coming to save you (you are the one you are waiting for)
Episode 527: The irresponsible man (the case against unmarried men)
Episode 526: I did (why women are mean to men who like them)
Episode 525: Delusional women (understanding female entitlement)
Episode 524: Some men need marriage (be all that you can be)
Episode 523: The plow horse (how marriage uses men)
Episode 522: The problem of now (the dirty garage)
Episode 521: The disposable man (all lives are not worth the same)
Episode 520: An ideal marriage (why certain relationships go the distance)
Episode 519: Rise of the beta (why men today are so feminine)
Episode 518: Know when to shut up (learn how to take the money)
Episode 517: What women want (the answer to the question)
Episode 516: Her narcissistic ex (why this is a red flag)
Episode 515: The appreciation gap (how to stop men from cheating)
Episode 514: How to meet women (the four pathways)
Episode 513: The beginning of the end (how men lose power in relationships)
Episode 512: Who speaks for men? (the disappearance of male space)
Episode 511: Attachment can change (overcoming relational insecurity)
Episode 510: Not everyone can be happy (your thoughts create your reality)
Episode 509: Staying for the kids (responding to the arguments)
Episode 508: Men need friends (the loneliness problem)
Episode 507: The Easter egg hunt (how women get men to lose)
Episode 506: Winning to lose (what do you hope to gain?)
Episode 505: Creating a monster (how men ruin their relationships)
Episode 504: Tests are opportunities (the way of Hercules)
Episode 503: When women hedge (the bet determines the payout)
Episode 502: The truth about mental illness (how to live with it)
Episode 501: Your money's no good here (you cannot buy a relationship long-term)
Episode 500: Men don't want a challenge (his life is hard enough)
Episode 499: Women don't close (what you want doesn't matter)
Episode 498: The two paths (how people learn)
Episode 497: Put her to work (women want to care for you)
Episode 496: Where the battle is won (the ten second conflict)
Episode 495: The truth about good relationships (tea over rice)
Episode 494: You are two men (how to accelerate your development)
Episode 493: Wrestling with the angel (you have to fight for your life)
Episode 492: How to be a better person (the unexpected driver of kindness)
Episode 491: A feast of crumbs (how men get used)
Episode 490: You never lose someone all at once (why it takes men so long to get over it)
Episode 489: You can't get there the same way twice (success is a moving castle)
Episode 488: Mother love vs. father love (understanding their strengths and liabilities)
Episode 487: Test her (how to screen women)
Episode 486: The beam in your own (you're not working hard enough)
Episode 485: The two relationships (marriage does not get you love)
Episode 484: The most effective marriage intervention (get out of the house)
Episode 483: Holders and sniffers (which one are you?)
Episode 482: There is no need to understand (the problem is the problem)
Episode 481: All women play blackjack (know when to hold 'em)
Episode 480: How to marry a rich, attractive man (how to capture the king)
Episode 479: Understanding men (rich, attractive, or loyal)
Episode 478: Play is the essence of game (how to effectively seduce anyone)
Episode 477: Men's romantic fantasy (why men get married)
Episode 476: The three phases of relationships (success's reward is more work)
Episode 475: Make her work for it (don't just hand it over)
Episode 474: Some problems are their best solutions (don't make things worse)
Episode 473: Why beautiful women are nuts (a co-created problem)
Episode 472: Why successful men are jerks (no one wants to do the laundry)
Episode 471: The lens of attraction (why you can't do anything right)
Episode 470: Being right doesn't matter (winning the battle to lose the war)
Episode 469: Sexless marriage (a breach of contract)
Episode 468: A PhD in men (how to get what you want from a man)
Episode 467: The coin of the realm (give people what they want)
Episode 466: A horse in the rain (how to pass through suffering)
Episode 465: The cherry on top (women are luxury goods)
Episode 464: Dating off the beaten path (what to do if you are unconventional)
Episode 463: The privilege of losing (paying the cost of winning)
Episode 462: Dating after 50 (challenges and opportunities)
Episode 461: Write your own invitation (how to make friends as an adult man)
Episode 460: Don't fight to keep people (you lose when you win)
Episode 459: Saying the quiet part loud (emperors must wear clothes)
Episode 458: Why dating advice is terrible (half right is all wrong)
Episode 457: How to lead your woman (lessons from the front)
Episode 456: Why people can't find love (understanding what you're searching for)
Episode 455: How to date without going crazy (walking the razor's edge)
Episode 454: You always break your own heart (the death of a dream)
Episode 453: Making women feel right is a business (telling people what they want to hear pays well)
Episode 452: The old man at the club (how to deal with aging out)
Episode 451: The secret of a successful relationship (get your needs met elsewhere)
Episode 450: How men get suckered into fighting with women (why shouldn't you have to deal with it?)
Episode 449: Why buy the cow? (how to give good milk)
Episode 448: The problem with self-respect (most hills are not worth dying on)
Episode 447: Why dating apps are making it harder to date (the perception of supply and demand)
Episode 446: Choosing between two women (it is not always an either/or)
Episode 445: You get what you pay for (the higher the prices, the better the service)
Episode 444: The $50,000 beer (why dating is so expensive for successful men)
Episode 443: Why successful men use escort (what the rich and the beautiful have in common)
Episode 442: Women are a roll of the dice (the fundamental rule of gambling)
Episode 441: The standoff between men and women (how to sell a burning house)
Episode 440: Never meet halfway (understanding what a date is)
Episode 439: Women have to allow themselves to be used (be used or be ornamental)
Episode 438: Mission accomplished (my commitment has been fulfilled)
Episode 437: In a good relationship, the transaction is invisible (no one notices when it's working)
Episode 436: Many women are construction workers (it's a young person's job)
Episode 435: Romance is a game of hide-and-seek (remembering that you're already whole)
Episode 434: How to deal with perfectionism (exposing its inner workings)
Episode 433: How women make it difficult to love them (make it easy to get what you want)
Episode 432: Strike when the iron is cold (the importance of waiting for your moment)
Episode 431: Never punish people for doing what you want (the power of shaping)
Episode 430: Every woman is two women (exploring the wild west)
Episode 429: Being famous is like being a woman (musings on a haircut)
Episode 428: The court does not deal in trifles (most things aren't worth your time)
Episode 427: How to drop a handkerchief (women initiate relationships)
Episode 426: The business of suffering (every solution needs a problem)
Episode 425: The source of the problem (what people fail to understand about mental illness)
Episode 424: The gift of nothingness (seeing the everyday miracle)
Episode 423: Limitations make you better (figure out your batman rules)
Episode 422: The trap of understanding (considerations are concessions)
Episode 421: Why men get married (it's not about you)
Episode 420: Women over 30 (the game isn't over yet)
Episode 419: The marriage ultimatum (it's not personal, just business)
Episode 418: How to not be part of the problem (your anger isn't helping)
Episode 417: You don't need money to get women (the three things that work)
Episode 416: Responding to my female critics (the importance of intentional sexuality)
Episode 415: How to be confident without success (be your own prophet)
Episode 414: Women do the right things with the wrong men (the good times-to-hassle ratio)
Episode 413: Men do the right things with the wrong women (the importance of a system)
Episode 412: The price of living your own life (lack of understanding is a test of your character)
Episode 411: Why some people get so upset with my content (responding to haters)
Episode 410: How to handle relationship jealousy (act like the king that you are)
Episode 409: What people fail to understand about depression (your life could be better)
Episode 408: How to keep a woman (the past is prologue)
Episode 407: How to keep your cool with women (the sandwich strategy)
Episode 406: Body count and sexual jealousy (moving beyond the number)
Episode 405: How to save your mind (learn what no one teaches you)
Episode 404: What to do if you're bored in a relationship (the sure-fire trick that always works)
Episode 403: Virtue only makes you good (but it is still worth cultivating)
Deep Dive 008: Dr. Robert Glover (authenticity, attraction, and nice guy syndrome)
Episode 402: Politics and sexual withholding (why it doesn't work)
Episode 401: Listen to yourself (you likely already know the answer)
Episode 400: Why men make more than women (understanding the gender pay gap)
Episode 399: What should I do with my life? (why you can't think it out)
Episode 398: How women train men to be angry (don’t reward what you don’t want)
Episode 397: How women disrespect men without realizing it (bursting the bubble)
Episode 396: How women disrespect men without realizing it (understanding power)
Episode 395: Hire slow, fire fast (understanding the selection process)
Deep Dive 007: Shawn T. Smith
Episode 394: The servant takes the money (the double-edge of hypergamy)
Episode 393: Overpaying is the cost of winning (why getting what you want is disappointing)
Episode 392: Women’s greatest enemy (overcoming pride)
Episode 391: How to resist becoming emotionally attached (get a poker face)
Episode 390: Men’s greatest enemy (moving past the fear)
Episode 389: Fear is the basis of respect (people must hear you hiss)
Episode 388: How to never fight with a woman (the greatest victory requires no battle)
Episode 387: Couples therapy (almost) never works (you are not the client)
Episode 386: Men’s dating double-bind (how to flip the script)
Episode 385: The trap of the high-value woman (every restaurant serves water)
Episode 384: It gets worse before it gets better (understanding why change is so difficult)
Episode 383: Understanding emotional detachment (the key to resilience)
Episode 382: How to bring sex back into a relationship (why your woman pulls away)
Episode 381: The key to understanding people (the carrot and the stick)
Episode 380: How to get any man you want (The unbreakable rule)
Episode 379: Why women pick fights (anger is reassuring)
Episode 378: Why men have midlife crises (you have to practice being selfish)
Episode 377: You’re only as good as your routines (structure is more important than you think)
Episode 376: ”I don’t play games” (understanding what this really means)
Episode 375: Passport bros and international dating (approaching the movement from a fresh perspective)
Episode 374: How to get any man you want (The hook)
Episode 373: The best that life can offer (orienting toward your highest purpose)
Episode 372: How to get any man you want (The master key)
Episode 371: Women need game too (understanding how women get commitment)
Episode 370: Frame cannot be shared (a ship can only have one captain)
Episode 369: Emotions are never irrational (feelings are not always justified)
Episode 368: Understanding frame (are you living in her world, or is she living in yours?)
Episode 367: Understanding the symptom pool (how the world goes mad)
Episode 366: You have to teach people how to feel about you (the vacuum cleaner salesman)
Episode 365: May all beings be free of suffering (addressing the source of the problem)
Episode 364: ”I have plenty of time” (understanding female timelines)
Episode 363: Why I do what I do (if no one else is doing the job, you’re elected)
Episode 362: Love like the sun (moving beyond the exchange of value)
Episode 361: Overcoming impostor syndrome (understanding why it doesn’t make sense)
Episode 360: How to be wise (accepting the gift that nobody wants)
Episode 359: How to deal with haters
Episode 358: Women and acceptable loss
Episode 357: Only founders get equity
Episode 356: Men and women don’t need each other anymore
Episode 355: The biological clock doesn’t exist
Episode 354: The way it all ends (Part 2)
Episode 354: The way it all ends (Part 1)
Episode 353: The most dangerous thing for a relationship
Deep Dive 006: Alex Leon
Episode 352: How men mess up new relationships
Episode 351: How to make friends as an adult
Episode 350: Most men are romantics
Episode 349: How to create more meaning in your life
Episode 348: Why men end up with train wrecks
Episode 347: How to overcome approach anxiety
Deep Dive 005: Ken Curry
Episode 346: Why marriage kills sex
Episode 345: Why men pay on the first date
Episode 344: Dating is an extended hiring process
Episode 343: Can people change?
Episode 342: Why men are afraid to approach women
Episode 341: All men pay
Episode 340: Most people don’t want relationships
Episode 339: Get used to disappointing women
Episode 338: Most men blow the first date
Episode 337: Reflections on 100,000 subscribers
Episode 336: Why most marriages fail
Episode 335: The limitations of science
Deep Dive 003: Rob Ager
Episode 334: What men don’t understand about female selection
Episode 333: How to love yourself
Deep Dive 002: Chazz Ellis
Episode 332: How to be a man
Episode 331: Why women monkey branch
Episode 330: Why time seems to move faster as you age
Episode 329: Where do players come from?
Episode 328: ”I don’t want to waste my time”
Episode 327: The game does not run on gratitude
Episode 326: What men and women have to do in order to love
Episode 325: Making men angry at women is a business
Episode 324: Men and women: How did we end up here?
Episode 323: How to have a fulfilling life
Episode 322: Most men are wallpaper
Episode 321: The difference between masculine and feminine communication
Episode 320: Love has nothing to do with relationships
Episode 319: What evolutionary psychology gets wrong
Episode 318: Most people are delusional
Episode 317: Who has more power in a relationship?
Episode 316: Talking is overrated
Episode 315: How to have a fulfilling sexual relationship
Episode 314: Why 50-50 relationships don’t work
Episode 313: How to see God (if you don’t believe)
Episode 312: Men need to have a plan with women
Episode 311: The complaint of modern women
Episode 310: ”Do you only want sex?”
Episode 309: Divide and conquer
Episode 308: The truth about the red pill
Episode 307: The superficiality of desire
Episode 306: Why men get jealous of their women’s past
Episode 305: Talk about people behind their backs
Episode 304: Why people self-sabotage
Episode 303: Where have all the good men gone
Episode 302: Produce more than you consume
Episode 301: Why people don’t like it when you’re nice to them
Episode 300: Women win this dating game
Episode 299: Rejecting women is a skill
Episode 298: Weed is more dangerous than you think
Episode 297: The emotional gym
Episode 296: The most common male sexual strategy
Episode 295: How to improve your motivation as a man
Episode 294: It’s better for women to be adorers
Episode 293: The most toxic relationship belief
Episode 292: Addressing female disrespect
Episode 291: What you need to heal a betrayal
Episode 290: Inequality is the basis of relationship
Episode 289: Why women don’t apologize
Episode 288: You can’t have any relationship with anyone
Episode 287: How to have effortless relationships with women
Episode 286: Evil isn’t dark
Episode 285: Why I talk about sex and money
Episode 284: How to make a connection with anyone
Episode 283: Being kind is not being nice
Episode 282: Loyalty means different things to men and women
Episode 281: Of cats and cheese
Episode 280: Why men care about a woman’s sexual history
Episode 279: Three tips to deal with gossip
Episode 278: Fully half-full
Episode 277: Shine brighter
Episode 276: Get a side hustle
Episode 275: There are only two goals
Episode 274: Cancer cures neurosis
Episode 273: What women don’t understand about chivalry
Episode 272: How to dismantle envy
Episode 271: Turn the other cheek
Episode 270: How to improve your self-esteem
Episode 269: The trap of a good enough life
Episode 268: If it’s worth doing...
Episode 267: Dominance is psychological not physical
Episode 266: Women are making society polygamous
Episode 265: ”My needs aren’t being met”
Episode 264: The invisibility of loss
Episode 263: Dating is like buying a car
Episode 262: Why the people you like don’t like you back
Episode 261: Surviving toxic family during the holidays
Episode 260: Younger men and older women
Episode 259: Men treat women the way women treat money
Episode 258: How to be indestructible
Episode 257: The part that women always leave out
Episode 256: Recognition is a poor man’s currency
Episode 255: Why successful men cheat
Episode 254: Dating for shared interests
Episode 253: Insight is not enough
Episode 252: The origin of free and equal relationships
Episode 251: Nothing ever ends, we just move on
Episode 250: Why people get married when they do
Episode 249: When are men and women most attractive?
Episode 248: Respect means different things to men and women
Episode 247: The most common cognitive bias
Episode 246: Exclusivity is expensive
Episode 245: The truth about romance: Solipsism
Episode 244: Neglected kinds of love: Space
Episode 243: What is confidence?
Episode 242: What straights can learn from gays
Episode 241: The truth about romance: Romance is for men
Episode 240: Why most relationships don’t last
Episode 239: The importance of sex in a relationship
Episode 238: Why nice guys finish last
Episode 237: Women want it all
Episode 236: Neglected kinds of love: Order
Episode 235: Why pre-screening dates is a bad idea
Episode 234: Why modern dating doesn’t work
Episode 233: Women punish the men they like
Episode 232: Why men like younger women
Episode 231: The two body problem
Episode 230: Women have more options in the sexual marketplace
Episode 229: Women treat men the way men treat jobs
Episode 228: The mastery of life
Episode 227: Masculinity and femininity
Episode 226: You can’t not communicate
Episode 225: Not everyone can be saved
Episode 224: The balance of creation and destruction
Episode 223: Humanity changes slowly, if at all
Episode 222: Love your neighbor as yourself
Episode 221: How to hunt for a partner
Episode 220: Why men don’t go to therapy
Episode 219: What is conviction?
Episode 218: How to improve your luck
Episode 217: Core emotional wounds
Episode 216: All mental illnesses are compromises
Episode 215: The best slave is still a slave
Episode 214: A bad business blames its customers
Episode 213: If you punish the truth, you’re asking to be lied to
Episode 212: The three goals of human interaction
Episode 211: You’ve got to feel it to heal it
Episode 210: The two kinds of dates
Episode 209: Don’t be the last guy to leave the party
Episode 208: The truth about unconditional love
Episode 207: The truth about commitment
Episode 206: The balance of pain and pleasure
Episode 205: Be careful about asking for advice
Episode 204: How to handle failure like a pro
Episode 203: Why bad habits persist
Episode 202: How to be extraordinary in life
Episode 201: Life is a mystery to be experienced
Episode 200: What is the sexual marketplace?
Episode 199: Dating: Hunting versus fishing
Episode 198: What men and women look for in sexual partners
Episode 197: The fear of commitment
Episode 196: The fundamental romantic misunderstanding
Episode 195: How to get people to like you more
Episode 194: The power of half
Episode 193: Danger and uncertainty
Episode 192: A perspective on happiness
Episode 191: The truth about social media posts
Episode 190: Bottom is when you stop digging
Episode 189: How to be impeccable with your word
Episode 188: What is true no contact?
Episode 187: What is a deal breaker?
Episode 186: The best way to receive a compliment
Episode 185: Bond and non-attachment
Episode 184: The path is already there
Episode 183: To be free, you cannot do whatever you want
Episode 182: How to love without emotional attachment
Episode 181: Would you change places with them?
Episode 180: The worst thing to say in a dating profile
Episode 179: Practice enjoying your life
Episode 178: Date like it’s your job
Episode 177: The force of revenge
Episode 176: The truth about rejection
Episode 175: The gift of your absence: The threshold of tolerance
Episode 174: The concept of love-food
Episode 173: Too short to suck
Episode 172: Three steps to becoming more confident
Episode 171: How to let go of someone
Episode 170: Ignorance and intelligence
Episode 169: To be loved you must allow yourself to be known
Episode 168: The nature of evil in games
Episode 167: How to enjoy your life more
Episode 166: Guys: find your ugly duckling
Episode 165: Ladies: find your dark horse
Episode 164: Love, sex, and commitment
Episode 163: Update to ”The gift of your absence”
Episode 162: We’ll see
Episode 161: A surprising insight from Harry Potter
Episode 160: The work never ends
Episode 159: Ideas divide, emotions unite
Episode 158: How to overcome your hesitation
Episode 157: Never talk to yourself in a way you wouldn’t speak to a close friend
Episode 156: The right decision doesn’t exist
Episode 155: You can only get better
Episode 154: Update your browser
Episode 153: How to show your partner respect
Episode 152: How to stop having panic attacks without medication (2 of 2)
Episode 151: You never really know what you give to others
Episode 150: How to stop having panic attacks without medication (1 of 2)
Episode 149: People are as happy as they choose to be
Episode 148: Relationships and the concept of the game
Episode 147: Never want something for someone else more than they want it for themselves
Episode 146: Emotions are living things
Episode 145: The game of small talk
Episode 144: The fundamental game of human relationships
Episode 143: Life and the concept of the game
Episode 142: Here’s a simple anxiety reduction technique
Episode 141: Beware of attraction proxies
Episode 140: You do not need to justify your life
Episode 139: Applied stoicism - Good and bad
Episode 138: The reason why you exist
Episode 137: We learn about ourselves in relationships
Episode 136: Conquering the fear of being judged by others
Episode 135: How to suffer less in life
Episode 134: What is the critical inner voice?
Episode 133: The sexual double standard
Episode 132: You will never have enough
Episode 131: How to heal the void within
Episode 130: How to do something you’ve never done before
Episode 129: Being loved by the one you’re with - The adored
Episode 128: Values and decision making
Episode 127: Being with the one you love - The adorer
Episode 126: Stop what hurts you first
Episode 125: Don’t expect recognition
Episode 124: How is it good?
Episode 123: It will never be easier than it is today
Episode 122: You are paying more than you need to
Episode 121: ”Have to” versus ”choose to”
Episode 120: How to believe in yourself when you have no good reason to
Episode 119: The truth about romance - Obstruction
Episode 118: The truth about romance -Tragedy
Episode 117: The truth about romance - Unobtainability
Episode 116: Catastrophic thought cascades
Episode 115: Covert contracts
Episode 114: The origin of romance
Episode 113: The balance of attraction
Episode 112: Fouling is part of the game
Episode 111: The fundamental law of attraction
Episode 110: The empty canoe
Episode 109: Bullies never have enough lunch money
Episode 108: Thoughts aren’t private
Episode 107: To hope is to wait
Episode 106: Drax and the warrior’s mindset
Episode 105: The lie of anger
Episode 104: If Winter comes, can Spring be far behind?
Episode 103: Love is an adverb
Episode 102: A good craftsman has one scar
Episode 101: The price of peace
Episode 100: Love and the alphabet
Episode 99: Wanting is free
Episode 98: Speak what you want into being
Episode 97: Sleep and death
Episode 96: How to be more disciplined
Episode 95: Bet on yourself
Episode 94: Truth and Lies
Episode 93: Overcoming scarcity mentality
Episode 92: The town liar lies
Episode 91: Dealing with indirect requests
Episode 90: What is heaven?
Episode 89: Say your line
Episode 88: ”Persona 5” and confidants
Episode 87: Hold people like sand
Episode 86: Simple isn’t easy
Episode 85: Humility is knowing your proper size
Episode 84: Attend to your soil
Episode 83: The stress-diathesis model of mental illness
Episode 82: The gift of your absence
Episode 81: Be afraid of your fear
Episode 80: How to be disciplined
Episode 79: Rest is not a waste of time
Episode 78: The problem with passion
Episode 77: Do you want your boss‘s job?
Episode 76: Holiday safety planning
Episode 75: If you‘ve done nothing wrong, don‘t apologize
Episode 74: Offense is taken, not given
Episode 73: Compromise versus sacrifice
Episode 72: People want what other people want
Episode 71: Escaping approach-avoid conflicts
Episode 70: If you‘re in the park, you must have a ticket
Episode 69: The importance of small wins
Episode 68: Create the structure that you can surrender to
Episode 67: The mind cannot decide
Episode 66: The problem of other people
Episode 65: If you‘re going to cheat, indulge
Episode 64: Assume you‘ve already won
Episode 63: The gift of becoming
Episode 62: Don‘t try to change the weather
Episode 61: It‘s not your fault, but it is your responsibility
Episode 60: The next right move
Episode 59: The critical inner voice
Episode 58: If you can do it once...
Episode 57: Look for solutions
Episode 56: The universe guarantees no results
Episode 55: Suffering is expensive
Episode 54: Life is like Disneyland
Episode 53: How to get what you want in life
Episode 52: Serial 7‘s
Episode 51: The three keys to effective boundary setting
Episode 50: Don‘t feel guilty
Episode 49: Functional hopelessness
Episode 48: Winners almost always quit
Episode 47: Don‘t ignore air resistance
Episode 46: The function of grief
Episode 45: Emotions and mastery
Episode 44:”Persona 5” and social stats
Episode 43: The ”best years of your life”
Episode 42: The game of please-no
Episode 41: Roads only go where they go
Episode 40: What if?
Episode 39: Change your story
Episode 38: Theory of mind
Episode 37: The universe lives closed
Episode 36: People are disappointing
Episode 35: The coin flip technique
Episode 34: The myth of closure
Episode 33: Get some side quests!
Episode 32: Never reject yourself
Episode 31: Work is an auction house
Episode 30: Memento mori and happiness
Episode 29: "No" is sufficient
Episode 28: The nature of identity
Episode 27: "Need" versus "want"
Episode 26: The "Kill Bill" credit sequence
Episode 25: "Enough" is a psychological quantity
Episode 24: Safe, smart, brave, strong
Episode 23: The trap of "why"
Episode 22: Money is incentivized altruism
Episode 21: The value of values
Episode 20: Navigating no-win conversations
Episode 19: How to forgive
Episode 18: The tale of Bluebeard
Episode 17: Overcoming emotional manipulation
Episode 16: The block-and-replace technique
Episode 15: The disconfirming emotional experience
Episode 14: Rule out the confounds
Episode 13: This is it
Episode 12: Should and anger
Episode 11: The captain can't complain
Episode 10: How to confront a friend
Episode 9: The fear of disappointment
Episode 8: Overcoming new problems
Episode 7: Redeeming the suffering of your past
Episode 6: Don't play dress-up
Episode 5: Follow the function
Episode 4: How over what
Episode 3: Don't blow the whistle on yourself
Episode 2: Everyone is unique and replaceable
Episode 1: How to set effective boundaries