All Episodes

Episode 634: The death of speech (why we need men)

Episode 633: Love cheats (the unfaithful spouse)

Episode 632: The gift of your absence (if you can't leave)

Episode 631: A million dollar dream (it's worth the work)

Episode 630: A means to an end (three lessons)

Episode 629: Wanting a wife (the secretary problem)

Episode 628: Smart people are happy (understanding intelligence)

Episode 627: Just be yourself (the best and worst advice)

Episode 626: Wounds (your greatest gift)

Episode 625: Detach (how men show up)

Episode 624: The samurai (a model for men)

Episode 623: How women win (happy hunting)

Episode 622: The bird test (responding to women)

Episode 621: Bonding (what nature can teach us)

Episode 620: The end of thought (you can't talk to some people)

Episode 619: Timing (why people get married)

Episode 618: Men have a culture (it needs to be preserved)

Episode 617: I don't need a man (how women use men)

Episode 616: She'll wait (why she won't forget about you)

Episode 615: Disagreeable women (the duty to follow)

Episode 614: Use the city (get in, get out)

Episode 613: Give him the money (women don't share)

Episode 612: Make your own mistakes (you have a right to your pain)

Episode 611: The diamond mine (men are the prize)

Episode 610: Turning it around (how to start winning in life)

Episode 609: Performative masculinity (it's not what you think)

Episode 608: You do not need entertainment (how to get more done)

Episode 607: Protecting against gold diggers (show them the money)

Episode 606: The time to live (your second birthday)

Episode 605: Let men solve problems (he's not your girlfriend)

Episode 604: Optimization fatigue (why you feel worse as you get better)

Episode 603: Bad boys (why women want them)

Episode 602: How to get over an ex (the two best strategies)

Episode 601: A useful eight (my ideal woman)

Episode 600: Cheap sex (it's not all bad)

Episode 599: She who cries wolf (is she seeing clearly?

Episode 598: Relaxing into her feminine (the soft life)

Episode 597: Sex isn't special (feelings don't count)

Episode 596: An ordinary life (it's not for everyone)

Episode 595: Height (tall men have it easy)

Episode 594: The democratic lie (we are not created equal)

Episode 593: His money is my money (modern slavery)

Episode 592: Why you were lied to (and why it hurts so much)

Episode 591: You are a killer (dominate your mind)

Episode 590: Why the world is falling apart (turning down the genie)

Episode 589: The female idol (the corruption of dating)

Episode 588: Love and justice (order and chaos)

Episode 587: The reality of modern family (what's the point?)

Episode 586: What do you want to have for dinner? (no straight answers)

Episode 585: Women are dirty (understanding their dark desires)

Episode 584: Become a monster (owning your darkness)

Episode 583: Staying at home (no one wants to do it)

Episode 582: Women walking away (are men to blame?)

Episode 581: Sex and attention (the most reinforcing good)

Episode 580: Modern women (you can't have it both ways)

Episode 579: Death of the lady (where are all the real men?)

Episode 578: Is having a boyfriend embarrassing? (single is not a flex)

Episode 577: Get better (advice for men)

Episode 576: She takes and takes (why he feels used)

Episode 575: The ring test (love and business)

Episode 574: How to find yourself (understanding what you really want)

Episode 573: Body count (beyond the number)

Episode 572: The love trap (she can't fix you)

Episode 571: How relationships work (on value)

Episode 570: You can't cheat yourself (understanding self love)

Episode 569: Man up (for the benefit of women)

Episode 568: My new book (why you should read it)

Episode 567: If he wanted to (maybe he would)

Episode 566: The primary lie (you can't always get what you want)

Episode 565: As little as possible (why men need to do the bare minimum)

Episode 564: Garden tools (how to capture male attention)

Episode 563: The prison planet (the nature of existence)

Episode 562: Bait your hook (how will you be used?)

Episode 561: The spark (dating for feels)

Episode 560: Dread (understanding evil)

Episode 559: She can cry (how to deal with an emotional woman)

Episode 558: You are a parking space (how to suffer less)

Episode 557: The look (speak with your eyes)

Episode 556: The art of surrender (how to let go)

Episode 555: AI relationships (the future of dating)

Episode 554: Becoming a real woman (the Scarlett effect)

Episode 553: The price of safety (the man or the bear)

Episode 552: Don't chase (the power of attractiveness)

Episode 551: Why women get ghosted (they're not worth it)

Episode 550: Ask her out (the two bridges)

Episode 549: No one-night stands (how not to find your husband)

Episode 548: Don't waste her time (how women set themselves up to fail)

Episode 547: The core of respect (approaching the O word)

Episode 546: Getting vs. keeping (emotional labor in dating)

Episode 545: Don't be her option (why you get left on read)

Episode 544: Go f**k myself (how to accelerate your growth)

Episode 543: Why men lose interest in sex: Love (where men love they do not desire)

Episode 542: The magic ring (marriage isn't the answer)

Episode 541: Why men lose interest in sex: Habituation (the allure of the new)

Episode 540: Spilling the tea (why men will walk away)

Episode 539: Pet or partner? (you can't have it both ways)

Episode 538: Sex is about power (the fantasy of most men)

Episode 537: All men are incels (the bitter truth)

Episode 536: Everything is about sex (the true power of male desire)

Episode 535: Why men lose interest in sex: Familiarity (why closeness kills attraction)

Episode 534: Her only competition (why men end up in bad relationships)

Episode 533: Male cheating and female cheating (what makes them different)

Episode 532: Estranged fathers (dealing with parental alienation)

Episode 531: How I know what women want (their feelings don't matter)

Episode 530: All I want... (the problem with dating today)

Episode 529: Stop short or go long (the two paths to a relationship)

Episode 528: No one is coming to save you (you are the one you are waiting for)

Episode 527: The irresponsible man (the case against unmarried men)

Episode 526: I did (why women are mean to men who like them)

Episode 525: Delusional women (understanding female entitlement)

Episode 524: Some men need marriage (be all that you can be)

Episode 523: The plow horse (how marriage uses men)

Episode 522: The problem of now (the dirty garage)

Episode 521: The disposable man (all lives are not worth the same)

Episode 520: An ideal marriage (why certain relationships go the distance)

Episode 519: Rise of the beta (why men today are so feminine)

Episode 518: Know when to shut up (learn how to take the money)

Episode 517: What women want (the answer to the question)

Episode 516: Her narcissistic ex (why this is a red flag)

Episode 515: The appreciation gap (how to stop men from cheating)

Episode 514: How to meet women (the four pathways)

Episode 513: The beginning of the end (how men lose power in relationships)

Episode 512: Who speaks for men? (the disappearance of male space)

Episode 511: Attachment can change (overcoming relational insecurity)

Episode 510: Not everyone can be happy (your thoughts create your reality)

Episode 509: Staying for the kids (responding to the arguments)

Episode 508: Men need friends (the loneliness problem)

Episode 507: The Easter egg hunt (how women get men to lose)

Episode 506: Winning to lose (what do you hope to gain?)

Episode 505: Creating a monster (how men ruin their relationships)

Episode 504: Tests are opportunities (the way of Hercules)

Episode 503: When women hedge (the bet determines the payout)

Episode 502: The truth about mental illness (how to live with it)

Episode 501: Your money's no good here (you cannot buy a relationship long-term)

Episode 500: Men don't want a challenge (his life is hard enough)

Episode 499: Women don't close (what you want doesn't matter)

Episode 498: The two paths (how people learn)

Episode 497: Put her to work (women want to care for you)

Episode 496: Where the battle is won (the ten second conflict)

Episode 495: The truth about good relationships (tea over rice)

Episode 494: You are two men (how to accelerate your development)

Episode 493: Wrestling with the angel (you have to fight for your life)

Episode 492: How to be a better person (the unexpected driver of kindness)

Episode 491: A feast of crumbs (how men get used)

Episode 490: You never lose someone all at once (why it takes men so long to get over it)

Episode 489: You can't get there the same way twice (success is a moving castle)

Episode 488: Mother love vs. father love (understanding their strengths and liabilities)

Episode 487: Test her (how to screen women)

Episode 486: The beam in your own (you're not working hard enough)

Episode 485: The two relationships (marriage does not get you love)

Episode 484: The most effective marriage intervention (get out of the house)

Episode 483: Holders and sniffers (which one are you?)

Episode 482: There is no need to understand (the problem is the problem)

Episode 481: All women play blackjack (know when to hold 'em)

Episode 480: How to marry a rich, attractive man (how to capture the king)

Episode 479: Understanding men (rich, attractive, or loyal)

Episode 478: Play is the essence of game (how to effectively seduce anyone)

Episode 477: Men's romantic fantasy (why men get married)

Episode 476: The three phases of relationships (success's reward is more work)

Episode 475: Make her work for it (don't just hand it over)

Episode 474: Some problems are their best solutions (don't make things worse)

Episode 473: Why beautiful women are nuts (a co-created problem)

Episode 472: Why successful men are jerks (no one wants to do the laundry)

Episode 471: The lens of attraction (why you can't do anything right)

Episode 470: Being right doesn't matter (winning the battle to lose the war)

Episode 469: Sexless marriage (a breach of contract)

Episode 468: A PhD in men (how to get what you want from a man)

Episode 467: The coin of the realm (give people what they want)

Episode 466: A horse in the rain (how to pass through suffering)

Episode 465: The cherry on top (women are luxury goods)

Episode 464: Dating off the beaten path (what to do if you are unconventional)

Episode 463: The privilege of losing (paying the cost of winning)

Episode 462: Dating after 50 (challenges and opportunities)

Episode 461: Write your own invitation (how to make friends as an adult man)

Episode 460: Don't fight to keep people (you lose when you win)

Episode 459: Saying the quiet part loud (emperors must wear clothes)

Episode 458: Why dating advice is terrible (half right is all wrong)

Episode 457: How to lead your woman (lessons from the front)

Episode 456: Why people can't find love (understanding what you're searching for)

Episode 455: How to date without going crazy (walking the razor's edge)

Episode 454: You always break your own heart (the death of a dream)

Episode 453: Making women feel right is a business (telling people what they want to hear pays well)

Episode 452: The old man at the club (how to deal with aging out)

Episode 451: The secret of a successful relationship (get your needs met elsewhere)

Episode 450: How men get suckered into fighting with women (why shouldn't you have to deal with it?)

Episode 449: Why buy the cow? (how to give good milk)

Episode 448: The problem with self-respect (most hills are not worth dying on)

Episode 447: Why dating apps are making it harder to date (the perception of supply and demand)

Episode 446: Choosing between two women (it is not always an either/or)

Episode 445: You get what you pay for (the higher the prices, the better the service)

Episode 444: The $50,000 beer (why dating is so expensive for successful men)

Episode 443: Why successful men use escort (what the rich and the beautiful have in common)

Episode 442: Women are a roll of the dice (the fundamental rule of gambling)

Episode 441: The standoff between men and women (how to sell a burning house)

Episode 440: Never meet halfway (understanding what a date is)

Episode 439: Women have to allow themselves to be used (be used or be ornamental)

Episode 438: Mission accomplished (my commitment has been fulfilled)

Episode 437: In a good relationship, the transaction is invisible (no one notices when it's working)

Episode 436: Many women are construction workers (it's a young person's job)

Episode 435: Romance is a game of hide-and-seek (remembering that you're already whole)

Episode 434: How to deal with perfectionism (exposing its inner workings)

Episode 433: How women make it difficult to love them (make it easy to get what you want)

Episode 432: Strike when the iron is cold (the importance of waiting for your moment)

Episode 431: Never punish people for doing what you want (the power of shaping)

Episode 430: Every woman is two women (exploring the wild west)

Episode 429: Being famous is like being a woman (musings on a haircut)

Episode 428: The court does not deal in trifles (most things aren't worth your time)

Episode 427: How to drop a handkerchief (women initiate relationships)

Episode 426: The business of suffering (every solution needs a problem)

Episode 425: The source of the problem (what people fail to understand about mental illness)

Episode 424: The gift of nothingness (seeing the everyday miracle)

Episode 423: Limitations make you better (figure out your batman rules)

Episode 422: The trap of understanding (considerations are concessions)

Episode 421: Why men get married (it's not about you)

Episode 420: Women over 30 (the game isn't over yet)

Episode 419: The marriage ultimatum (it's not personal, just business)

Episode 418: How to not be part of the problem (your anger isn't helping)

Episode 417: You don't need money to get women (the three things that work)

Episode 416: Responding to my female critics (the importance of intentional sexuality)

Episode 415: How to be confident without success (be your own prophet)

Episode 414: Women do the right things with the wrong men (the good times-to-hassle ratio)

Episode 413: Men do the right things with the wrong women (the importance of a system)

Episode 412: The price of living your own life (lack of understanding is a test of your character)

Episode 411: Why some people get so upset with my content (responding to haters)

Episode 410: How to handle relationship jealousy (act like the king that you are)

Episode 409: What people fail to understand about depression (your life could be better)

Episode 408: How to keep a woman (the past is prologue)

Episode 407: How to keep your cool with women (the sandwich strategy)

Episode 406: Body count and sexual jealousy (moving beyond the number)

Episode 405: How to save your mind (learn what no one teaches you)

Episode 404: What to do if you're bored in a relationship (the sure-fire trick that always works)

Episode 403: Virtue only makes you good (but it is still worth cultivating)

Deep Dive 008: Dr. Robert Glover (authenticity, attraction, and nice guy syndrome)

Episode 402: Politics and sexual withholding (why it doesn't work)

Episode 401: Listen to yourself (you likely already know the answer)

Episode 400: Why men make more than women (understanding the gender pay gap)

Episode 399: What should I do with my life? (why you can't think it out)

Episode 398: How women train men to be angry (don’t reward what you don’t want)

Episode 397: How women disrespect men without realizing it (bursting the bubble)

Episode 396: How women disrespect men without realizing it (understanding power)

Episode 395: Hire slow, fire fast (understanding the selection process)

Deep Dive 007: Shawn T. Smith

Episode 394: The servant takes the money (the double-edge of hypergamy)

Episode 393: Overpaying is the cost of winning (why getting what you want is disappointing)

Episode 392: Women’s greatest enemy (overcoming pride)

Episode 391: How to resist becoming emotionally attached (get a poker face)

Episode 390: Men’s greatest enemy (moving past the fear)

Episode 389: Fear is the basis of respect (people must hear you hiss)

Episode 388: How to never fight with a woman (the greatest victory requires no battle)

Episode 387: Couples therapy (almost) never works (you are not the client)

Episode 386: Men’s dating double-bind (how to flip the script)

Episode 385: The trap of the high-value woman (every restaurant serves water)

Episode 384: It gets worse before it gets better (understanding why change is so difficult)

Episode 383: Understanding emotional detachment (the key to resilience)

Episode 382: How to bring sex back into a relationship (why your woman pulls away)

Episode 381: The key to understanding people (the carrot and the stick)

Episode 380: How to get any man you want (The unbreakable rule)

Episode 379: Why women pick fights (anger is reassuring)

Episode 378: Why men have midlife crises (you have to practice being selfish)

Episode 377: You’re only as good as your routines (structure is more important than you think)

Episode 376: ”I don’t play games” (understanding what this really means)

Episode 375: Passport bros and international dating (approaching the movement from a fresh perspective)

Episode 374: How to get any man you want (The hook)

Episode 373: The best that life can offer (orienting toward your highest purpose)

Episode 372: How to get any man you want (The master key)

Episode 371: Women need game too (understanding how women get commitment)

Episode 370: Frame cannot be shared (a ship can only have one captain)

Episode 369: Emotions are never irrational (feelings are not always justified)

Episode 368: Understanding frame (are you living in her world, or is she living in yours?)

Episode 367: Understanding the symptom pool (how the world goes mad)

Episode 366: You have to teach people how to feel about you (the vacuum cleaner salesman)

Episode 365: May all beings be free of suffering (addressing the source of the problem)

Episode 364: ”I have plenty of time” (understanding female timelines)

Episode 363: Why I do what I do (if no one else is doing the job, you’re elected)

Episode 362: Love like the sun (moving beyond the exchange of value)

Episode 361: Overcoming impostor syndrome (understanding why it doesn’t make sense)

Episode 360: How to be wise (accepting the gift that nobody wants)

Episode 359: How to deal with haters

Episode 358: Women and acceptable loss

Episode 357: Only founders get equity

Episode 356: Men and women don’t need each other anymore

Episode 355: The biological clock doesn’t exist

Episode 354: The way it all ends (Part 2)

Episode 354: The way it all ends (Part 1)

Episode 353: The most dangerous thing for a relationship

Deep Dive 006: Alex Leon

Episode 352: How men mess up new relationships

Episode 351: How to make friends as an adult

Episode 350: Most men are romantics

Episode 349: How to create more meaning in your life

Episode 348: Why men end up with train wrecks

Episode 347: How to overcome approach anxiety

Deep Dive 005: Ken Curry

Episode 346: Why marriage kills sex

Episode 345: Why men pay on the first date

Episode 344: Dating is an extended hiring process

Episode 343: Can people change?

Episode 342: Why men are afraid to approach women

Episode 341: All men pay

Episode 340: Most people don’t want relationships

Episode 339: Get used to disappointing women

Episode 338: Most men blow the first date

Episode 337: Reflections on 100,000 subscribers

Episode 336: Why most marriages fail

Episode 335: The limitations of science

Deep Dive 003: Rob Ager

Episode 334: What men don’t understand about female selection

Episode 333: How to love yourself

Deep Dive 002: Chazz Ellis

Episode 332: How to be a man

Episode 331: Why women monkey branch

Episode 330: Why time seems to move faster as you age

Episode 329: Where do players come from?

Episode 328: ”I don’t want to waste my time”

Episode 327: The game does not run on gratitude

Episode 326: What men and women have to do in order to love

Episode 325: Making men angry at women is a business

Episode 324: Men and women: How did we end up here?

Episode 323: How to have a fulfilling life

Episode 322: Most men are wallpaper

Episode 321: The difference between masculine and feminine communication

Episode 320: Love has nothing to do with relationships

Episode 319: What evolutionary psychology gets wrong

Episode 318: Most people are delusional

Episode 317: Who has more power in a relationship?

Episode 316: Talking is overrated

Episode 315: How to have a fulfilling sexual relationship

Episode 314: Why 50-50 relationships don’t work

Episode 313: How to see God (if you don’t believe)

Episode 312: Men need to have a plan with women

Episode 311: The complaint of modern women

Episode 310: ”Do you only want sex?”

Episode 309: Divide and conquer

Episode 308: The truth about the red pill

Episode 307: The superficiality of desire

Episode 306: Why men get jealous of their women’s past

Episode 305: Talk about people behind their backs

Episode 304: Why people self-sabotage

Episode 303: Where have all the good men gone

Episode 302: Produce more than you consume

Episode 301: Why people don’t like it when you’re nice to them

Episode 300: Women win this dating game

Episode 299: Rejecting women is a skill

Episode 298: Weed is more dangerous than you think

Episode 297: The emotional gym

Episode 296: The most common male sexual strategy

Episode 295: How to improve your motivation as a man

Episode 294: It’s better for women to be adorers

Episode 293: The most toxic relationship belief

Episode 292: Addressing female disrespect

Episode 291: What you need to heal a betrayal

Episode 290: Inequality is the basis of relationship

Episode 289: Why women don’t apologize

Episode 288: You can’t have any relationship with anyone

Episode 287: How to have effortless relationships with women

Episode 286: Evil isn’t dark

Episode 285: Why I talk about sex and money

Episode 284: How to make a connection with anyone

Episode 283: Being kind is not being nice

Episode 282: Loyalty means different things to men and women

Episode 281: Of cats and cheese

Episode 280: Why men care about a woman’s sexual history

Episode 279: Three tips to deal with gossip

Episode 278: Fully half-full

Episode 277: Shine brighter

Episode 276: Get a side hustle

Episode 275: There are only two goals

Episode 274: Cancer cures neurosis

Episode 273: What women don’t understand about chivalry

Episode 272: How to dismantle envy

Episode 271: Turn the other cheek

Episode 270: How to improve your self-esteem

Episode 269: The trap of a good enough life

Episode 268: If it’s worth doing...

Episode 267: Dominance is psychological not physical

Episode 266: Women are making society polygamous

Episode 265: ”My needs aren’t being met”

Episode 264: The invisibility of loss

Episode 263: Dating is like buying a car

Episode 262: Why the people you like don’t like you back

Episode 261: Surviving toxic family during the holidays

Episode 260: Younger men and older women

Episode 259: Men treat women the way women treat money

Episode 258: How to be indestructible

Episode 257: The part that women always leave out

Episode 256: Recognition is a poor man’s currency

Episode 255: Why successful men cheat

Episode 254: Dating for shared interests

Episode 253: Insight is not enough

Episode 252: The origin of free and equal relationships

Episode 251: Nothing ever ends, we just move on

Episode 250: Why people get married when they do

Episode 249: When are men and women most attractive?

Episode 248: Respect means different things to men and women

Episode 247: The most common cognitive bias

Episode 246: Exclusivity is expensive

Episode 245: The truth about romance: Solipsism

Episode 244: Neglected kinds of love: Space

Episode 243: What is confidence?

Episode 242: What straights can learn from gays

Episode 241: The truth about romance: Romance is for men

Episode 240: Why most relationships don’t last

Episode 239: The importance of sex in a relationship

Episode 238: Why nice guys finish last

Episode 237: Women want it all

Episode 236: Neglected kinds of love: Order

Episode 235: Why pre-screening dates is a bad idea

Episode 234: Why modern dating doesn’t work

Episode 233: Women punish the men they like

Episode 232: Why men like younger women

Episode 231: The two body problem

Episode 230: Women have more options in the sexual marketplace

Episode 229: Women treat men the way men treat jobs

Episode 228: The mastery of life

Episode 227: Masculinity and femininity

Episode 226: You can’t not communicate

Episode 225: Not everyone can be saved

Episode 224: The balance of creation and destruction

Episode 223: Humanity changes slowly, if at all

Episode 222: Love your neighbor as yourself

Episode 221: How to hunt for a partner

Episode 220: Why men don’t go to therapy

Episode 219: What is conviction?

Episode 218: How to improve your luck

Episode 217: Core emotional wounds

Episode 216: All mental illnesses are compromises

Episode 215: The best slave is still a slave

Episode 214: A bad business blames its customers

Episode 213: If you punish the truth, you’re asking to be lied to

Episode 212: The three goals of human interaction

Episode 211: You’ve got to feel it to heal it

Episode 210: The two kinds of dates

Episode 209: Don’t be the last guy to leave the party

Episode 208: The truth about unconditional love

Episode 207: The truth about commitment

Episode 206: The balance of pain and pleasure

Episode 205: Be careful about asking for advice

Episode 204: How to handle failure like a pro

Episode 203: Why bad habits persist

Episode 202: How to be extraordinary in life

Episode 201: Life is a mystery to be experienced

Episode 200: What is the sexual marketplace?

Episode 199: Dating: Hunting versus fishing

Episode 198: What men and women look for in sexual partners

Episode 197: The fear of commitment

Episode 196: The fundamental romantic misunderstanding

Episode 195: How to get people to like you more

Episode 194: The power of half

Episode 193: Danger and uncertainty

Episode 192: A perspective on happiness

Episode 191: The truth about social media posts

Episode 190: Bottom is when you stop digging

Episode 189: How to be impeccable with your word

Episode 188: What is true no contact?

Episode 187: What is a deal breaker?

Episode 186: The best way to receive a compliment

Episode 185: Bond and non-attachment

Episode 184: The path is already there

Episode 183: To be free, you cannot do whatever you want

Episode 182: How to love without emotional attachment

Episode 181: Would you change places with them?

Episode 180: The worst thing to say in a dating profile

Episode 179: Practice enjoying your life

Episode 178: Date like it’s your job

Episode 177: The force of revenge

Episode 176: The truth about rejection

Episode 175: The gift of your absence: The threshold of tolerance

Episode 174: The concept of love-food

Episode 173: Too short to suck

Episode 172: Three steps to becoming more confident

Episode 171: How to let go of someone

Episode 170: Ignorance and intelligence

Episode 169: To be loved you must allow yourself to be known

Episode 168: The nature of evil in games

Episode 167: How to enjoy your life more

Episode 166: Guys: find your ugly duckling

Episode 165: Ladies: find your dark horse

Episode 164: Love, sex, and commitment

Episode 163: Update to ”The gift of your absence”

Episode 162: We’ll see

Episode 161: A surprising insight from Harry Potter

Episode 160: The work never ends

Episode 159: Ideas divide, emotions unite

Episode 158: How to overcome your hesitation

Episode 157: Never talk to yourself in a way you wouldn’t speak to a close friend

Episode 156: The right decision doesn’t exist

Episode 155: You can only get better

Episode 154: Update your browser

Episode 153: How to show your partner respect

Episode 152: How to stop having panic attacks without medication (2 of 2)

Episode 151: You never really know what you give to others

Episode 150: How to stop having panic attacks without medication (1 of 2)

Episode 149: People are as happy as they choose to be

Episode 148: Relationships and the concept of the game

Episode 147: Never want something for someone else more than they want it for themselves

Episode 146: Emotions are living things

Episode 145: The game of small talk

Episode 144: The fundamental game of human relationships

Episode 143: Life and the concept of the game

Episode 142: Here’s a simple anxiety reduction technique

Episode 141: Beware of attraction proxies

Episode 140: You do not need to justify your life

Episode 139: Applied stoicism - Good and bad

Episode 138: The reason why you exist

Episode 137: We learn about ourselves in relationships

Episode 136: Conquering the fear of being judged by others

Episode 135: How to suffer less in life

Episode 134: What is the critical inner voice?

Episode 133: The sexual double standard

Episode 132: You will never have enough

Episode 131: How to heal the void within

Episode 130: How to do something you’ve never done before

Episode 129: Being loved by the one you’re with - The adored

Episode 128: Values and decision making

Episode 127: Being with the one you love - The adorer

Episode 126: Stop what hurts you first

Episode 125: Don’t expect recognition

Episode 124: How is it good?

Episode 123: It will never be easier than it is today

Episode 122: You are paying more than you need to

Episode 121: ”Have to” versus ”choose to”

Episode 120: How to believe in yourself when you have no good reason to

Episode 119: The truth about romance - Obstruction

Episode 118: The truth about romance -Tragedy

Episode 117: The truth about romance - Unobtainability

Episode 116: Catastrophic thought cascades

Episode 115: Covert contracts

Episode 114: The origin of romance

Episode 113: The balance of attraction

Episode 112: Fouling is part of the game

Episode 111: The fundamental law of attraction

Episode 110: The empty canoe

Episode 109: Bullies never have enough lunch money

Episode 108: Thoughts aren’t private

Episode 107: To hope is to wait

Episode 106: Drax and the warrior’s mindset

Episode 105: The lie of anger

Episode 104: If Winter comes, can Spring be far behind?

Episode 103: Love is an adverb

Episode 102: A good craftsman has one scar

Episode 101: The price of peace

Episode 100: Love and the alphabet

Episode 99: Wanting is free

Episode 98: Speak what you want into being

Episode 97: Sleep and death

Episode 96: How to be more disciplined

Episode 95: Bet on yourself

Episode 94: Truth and Lies

Episode 93: Overcoming scarcity mentality

Episode 92: The town liar lies

Episode 91: Dealing with indirect requests

Episode 90: What is heaven?

Episode 89: Say your line

Episode 88: ”Persona 5” and confidants

Episode 87: Hold people like sand

Episode 86: Simple isn’t easy

Episode 85: Humility is knowing your proper size

Episode 84: Attend to your soil

Episode 83: The stress-diathesis model of mental illness

Episode 82: The gift of your absence

Episode 81: Be afraid of your fear

Episode 80: How to be disciplined

Episode 79: Rest is not a waste of time

Episode 78: The problem with passion

Episode 77: Do you want your boss‘s job?

Episode 76: Holiday safety planning

Episode 75: If you‘ve done nothing wrong, don‘t apologize

Episode 74: Offense is taken, not given

Episode 73: Compromise versus sacrifice

Episode 72: People want what other people want

Episode 71: Escaping approach-avoid conflicts

Episode 70: If you‘re in the park, you must have a ticket

Episode 69: The importance of small wins

Episode 68: Create the structure that you can surrender to

Episode 67: The mind cannot decide

Episode 66: The problem of other people

Episode 65: If you‘re going to cheat, indulge

Episode 64: Assume you‘ve already won

Episode 63: The gift of becoming

Episode 62: Don‘t try to change the weather

Episode 61: It‘s not your fault, but it is your responsibility

Episode 60: The next right move

Episode 59: The critical inner voice

Episode 58: If you can do it once...

Episode 57: Look for solutions

Episode 56: The universe guarantees no results

Episode 55: Suffering is expensive

Episode 54: Life is like Disneyland

Episode 53: How to get what you want in life

Episode 52: Serial 7‘s

Episode 51: The three keys to effective boundary setting

Episode 50: Don‘t feel guilty

Episode 49: Functional hopelessness

Episode 48: Winners almost always quit

Episode 47: Don‘t ignore air resistance

Episode 46: The function of grief

Episode 45: Emotions and mastery

Episode 44:”Persona 5” and social stats

Episode 43: The ”best years of your life”

Episode 42: The game of please-no

Episode 41: Roads only go where they go

Episode 40: What if?

Episode 39: Change your story

Episode 38: Theory of mind

Episode 37: The universe lives closed

Episode 36: People are disappointing

Episode 35: The coin flip technique

Episode 34: The myth of closure

Episode 33: Get some side quests!

Episode 32: Never reject yourself

Episode 31: Work is an auction house

Episode 30: Memento mori and happiness

Episode 29: "No" is sufficient

Episode 28: The nature of identity

Episode 27: "Need" versus "want"

Episode 26: The "Kill Bill" credit sequence

Episode 25: "Enough" is a psychological quantity

Episode 24: Safe, smart, brave, strong

Episode 23: The trap of "why"

Episode 22: Money is incentivized altruism

Episode 21: The value of values

Episode 20: Navigating no-win conversations

Episode 19: How to forgive

Episode 18: The tale of Bluebeard

Episode 17: Overcoming emotional manipulation

Episode 16: The block-and-replace technique

Episode 15: The disconfirming emotional experience

Episode 14: Rule out the confounds

Episode 13: This is it

Episode 12: Should and anger

Episode 11: The captain can't complain

Episode 10: How to confront a friend

Episode 9: The fear of disappointment

Episode 8: Overcoming new problems

Episode 7: Redeeming the suffering of your past

Episode 6: Don't play dress-up

Episode 5: Follow the function

Episode 4: How over what

Episode 3: Don't blow the whistle on yourself

Episode 2: Everyone is unique and replaceable

Episode 1: How to set effective boundaries