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Friend Crush with Amber Akilla — 178 episodes
flop era survivor: five ways to protect your slay
DIVA FREQUENCY 11;11
DIVA FREQUENCY 4:44 affirmations + meditation
DIVA FREQUENCY 11:11 - affirmations + meditation
sovereignty vs selfishness: setting boundaries in a mentally ill society
NATURE ABHORS A VACUUM: KEEP IN MIND AFTER A TOXIC SITUATION
how to turn a flop into a flopportunity
how to minimize overthinking so you can focus on being hot
it's not the thing, it's your relationship to the thing: rewiring your brain
decentering your hometown: hard to love yourself when you hate where you're from
navigating the creative industry - visibility, creative freedom & status
the first pillar of self-esteem: the practice of living consciously
baddie book club: being your own bestie, living consciously, journalling
consumption is not a hobby
flop eras, shrek-gate, ego death, supporting women's rights & wrongs
never argue with a man for free
decentering men while dating, first loves, envy, work crushes, casual hook ups
baddie book club: rejecting perfection, break-ups, gap year, failure & success
how to lock-in so hard your crush dies (metaphorically): limerence, yearning & being delusional
baddie book club vol. 1 week 1: discussion session ☆ the six pillars of self-esteem
when your bestie becomes a stranger - social circles & types of friendship
people pleasing dynamics (GRWM)
are all relationships transactional? what vibe do you bring to the function?
the book that changed my brain chemistry: the six pillars of self-esteem
non-negotiable hobbies for confidence: my pole dance journey
parents: avoid over-communicating and become living proof
you can't afford to be nonchalant - trying is cool
the pick-me seed: internalised misogyny, patriarchy, de-centering men
passion for your job is overrated
energy vampires & negging
is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? british vogue article thoughts & feelings
if you can't do it scared, do it ironically: micro-dosing risk, getting out of your comfort zone
all of your time is equally valuable ☆ being present
increase your baseline: discipline, acceptance, life audit, baby steps, being hot & having fun!!!
UNDERSTANDING LOVE: DEFINING CONNECTION
it's not the boy you're crying over: the crying gap - standards, expectations vs reality
everything is vibes - be hot and have fun!!!
rethinking imposter syndrome
hot girls don't let comparison be the thief of joy
what to do when you don't know what to do
growth doesn't have an aesthetic
a woman's ego in dating ~ eating dim sum in wuhan
kindness is never weakness
indifference is the best revenge ╮( ˘_˘ )╭
MOVING TO A NEW CITY - should you move, dating, making new friends
be crazy in private so you can focus on being hot in public: journalling
meditation for the unhinged & chronic over-thinkers (my 5 year review)
is your bestie acting like a hater? (female bullying & passive aggression)
do you need to kill the lover girl inside you?
don't let a fear of cringe get in the way of slaying
how hot girls make friends ☆
100 - miss you
real baddie behaviour
the philosophy of being hot & having fun (re-introduction for youtube))
before (or after) you send that essay text
the price of slaying is haters
things i learnt about friendship in my 20s
situationships are self harm
how to start new habits when your brain is mush
how to cure your chronically online clownery
30 things i learnt before 30 pt.2
30 things i learnt before 30 pt.1
how to be confident & unbothered
do what you enjoy
the disrespect is the closure
hot girl habits for crazy b*tches ☆
99 - FIGHT BACK (defending against haters)
98 - haters gonna hate: psychology behind criticism & negative feedback
97 - girl confessions: visa marriage, divorce, celibacy, living with men
96 - leaving your hometown: navigating new beginnings, cutting ties
95 - girl confessions: lovebombed by a creative director and unhinged flings - exploring modern romance
94 - full-time vs freelance: navigating your career path
93 - nice guys & pick-me girls: gender expectations
92 - girl confessions: crazy girlfriend era, delusional crushes & becoming secure
91 - go where you're appreciated: finding self worth in the right places
90 - DE-CENTER EVERYTHING: men, women, beauty, feminism - focus on yourself
89 - dating for money, financial dynamics & sprinkle sprinkle
88 - emotional accountability & relationship roadblocks
87 - 30 and no friends :( dealing w loneliness
voice memo 12 - is age just a number? pt.2 the privilege of aging
voice memo 11 - ageism, is age just a number?
voice memo 10 - decisions made in toxic comfort zones
voice memo 9 - allergic to bad vibes
86 - situationships
voice memo 8 - single & unbothered
85 - jealousy is a disease - envy & jealousy
84 - "high value women", growth & why people cheat
voice memo 7 - november thought dump
83 - quarter life crisis
82 - non negotiable hobby
voice memo 6 - character litmus test
81 - what do you have to offer?
80 - negative self talk
voice memo 5 - haters
79 - and what do you get out of it?
78 - resigning as the friend group therapist
voice memo 4 - feelings first, why? later
77 - offence vs disrespect
76 - girl confessions: hinge, single friends, age gaps, dating as a WoC
voice memo 3 - men & money???
75 - boy confessions: freshly 30, "the spark", dating expectations
74 - wtf is a boundary
voice memo 2 - friends to lovers to strangers, date ppl to get them out of the way lol
73 - what are you doing with your life???
72 - why people don't change
voice memo 1 - omg new crush just dropped!
71 - SEASON FIVE !!! one year back in shanghai !!!
70 - what about career switches? season 4 wrap!
69 - healing a broken heart vs a bruised ego
68 - SURVIVING NO CONTACT
67 - long distance relationships
66 - q&a - creating new habits, living at home vs full time work
65 - girl boss vs lover girl: wanting romantic connection
64 - what to do when your friend has become radicalized by the internet...
63 - betrayal trauma, sinophobia, working collaboratively, creative vs corporate
62 - normalize having no f**king idea
61 - q&a - finding yourself after a breakup, virtual romance
60 - de-influencing & intentional consumption
59 - how to live with your own clownery
58 - how to recover from people pleasing (youtube ep)
57 - do exes always come back and does it matter? (youtube ep)
56 - q&a - dating someone who is friends w their ex, incels, law school
55 - how to ask people out (youtube ep)
54 - boy confessions - "the game", people pleasing in men, authenticity in dating, ghosting & rejection
53 - w nadine milad - ghosting, people pleasing, friend break-ups
52 - pre 30 panic, quarter life crisis pt.2 listener submissions
51 - quarter life crisis, pre-30 panic pt.1 self esteem
50 - expectations, standards & the bare minimum
49 - boy confessions: "timothee" on cheating, 5 years single, new commitments & more
48 - friends with benefits & bootycalls
47 - adult friendships
46 - self-confidence & overcoming cringe
45 - q&a pt2 - boundaries, friends with your ex, books, pop culture, goals
44 - q&a pt1 - expectations, future faking, dating after a first love
43 - season four!! hi from shanghai!!! update/vibe check
42 - vibe check/ q&a - confrontation, friends & toxic exes, parental approval
41 - therapy
40 - w kicki yang zhang - art and influencing
39 - vibe check / q&a - breakups, boundaries, hinge replies, digital restraining orders
38 - w/ derrick gee - advice for creatives, 10 year marriage & tiktok
37 - skincare
36 - breadcrumbing and orbiting
35 - you are hot and having fun !!!
34 - random thoughts on healing
33 - hookup culture
32 - training for a breakup
31 - west elm caleb & dating apps
30 - any benefit mindset
29 - it's just a little crush!!!
28 - digital distancing
27 - 2021 thoughts & feelings
26 - if they wanted to they would?
25 - superficial vs spiritual self-care
24 - micro-cheating
23 - not having standards is bad for society
22 - being hot is not the same as being respected
21 - what’s good vs what’s best for you
20 - everything is connected 😌✨pt 1: authenticity
19 - grounding exercises to keep the crazy at bay
18 - random thoughts & realizations ~ truth vs opinion, authenticity
17 - reading is cool!!!!!!
16 - how to create awareness of and unlearn internalized racism
15 - are your friends kinda racist?
14 - the stages of realizing things ~ feminism & identity
13 - 20 things i learnt in 2020 #realizingthings
12 - getting off the gram
11 - what can we learn from friend break ups?
10 - confronting vs ghosting & can you get back together?? (friend breakups pt2 )
9 - is love a neurochemical con job??? understanding & practicing love
8 - friend break ups & why we CUT TIES!!!
7 - Elle @14strk on balancing her irl and url self
6 - making friends and finding your peoples
5 - yasmin suteja on identity and working in the australian creative industry
4 - control, crisis, consciousness & character
3 - body image: accepting and loving your skin suit
2 - chopsticks in the hair ~do we care?
1 - texting ur ex but it's me telling u what to say
welcome to friend crush!