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You Are Not Crazy — 261 episodes

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1

How Coercive Controllers Use Timing to Keep You in Their Orbit

2

What Coercive Control Does to Your Time

3

I Didn't Know I Was Still Holding My Breath

4

It Shouldn't Feel This Confusing: Naming the Cycle of Abuse

5

When Love Feels Like a Hostage Situation

6

How Manipulators Use Words to Maintain Control

7

The Underpinning of All Abuse: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola

8

When Co-Parenting Becomes Coercive Control

9

I'm Not Fucked Up, I'm Detoxing

10

Walking on Razor Blades: Life with Someone with BPD Description

11

How I Actually Healed (And Why It Didn't Look the Way I Expected)

12

What I Did When I Couldn't Trust My Own Mind

13

BPD Splitting in Relationships: What It Feels Like and How to Heal

14

Why They Never See It: The Psychology Behind Why Personality-Disordered People Don't Know They're the Problem

15

Pattern Recognition vs. The Blame Game

16

When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse

17

How I Help Clients Untangle High-Conflict Divorce

18

“No One Sees It” — The Pattern of Covert Abuse (And Why the System Misses It)

19

Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni

20

“Why Do I Feel Crazy?” — Life Inside a Trauma Bond

21

When Leaving Feels Impossible: The Hidden Reality of Loving Someone With Untreated BPD

22

Why They Feel Fine After the Blowup—and You Don’t

23

Emotional Whiplash, Hypervigilance, and the BPD Cycle of Abuse

24

When They Say You Can’t Communicate

25

Letting Go of the Why

26

The Blame Game: A Key Tactic in the Cycle of Emotional Abuse

27

When Co-Parenting Messages Make You Doubt Yourself

28

How Do I Stop Second Guessing Myself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship?

29

The Holiday Breakdown: Why High-Conflict Co-Parenting Becomes Unbearable

30

When “How to Treat a Man” Teaches Women to Disappear

31

Instead of Resolutions, I Do This

32

Dreading the New Year Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing

33

The Holidays, the Cycle of Abuse, and the Moment You Finally See It

34

Why the Holidays Feel Heavy (Even When You’ve Left)

35

Double Speak: When Coercive Control Hides Behind "Concern"

36

“You’re the Only One Who Has a Problem With Me”

37

When Everything Feels Like a Misunderstanding

38

How to Document DARVO in Family Court

39

When the Court Feels Like the Abuser: Family Court Awareness Month and the Fight for Safety

40

DARVO in Divorce — When the Abuser Becomes the “Victim”

41

When You Become the Villain in Their Story

42

How Do I Stop Craving Them? And Have They Really Changed?

43

Abusers Don’t See Themselves as Abusers

44

You’re Not Crazy—You’re Trauma Bonded

45

False Accountability and the Control Behind It

46

You Can’t Talk to Your Lawyer Like They’re Your Friend

47

What I Learned from Loving a Narcissist (Even Though It Nearly Broke Me)

48

High-Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting

49

Inside the Trauma Bond: Why I Couldn’t Leave (and How I Finally Did)

50

Craving Relief: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Impossible to Break

51

How to Work With Me: Coaching, Courses, and What’s Ahead

52

The Cycle of Sexual Coercion

53

The “Nice” Version Isn’t Proof They’ve Changed

54

From Love Bombing to Losing Myself — and Finding My Way Back

55

Am I Overreacting?

56

When It Was Never About Change: Understanding the Psychology Behind Cluster B Abuse

57

Breaking the Trauma Bond

58

Healing a Trauma Bond: The Power You Still Have

59

Whose Shame Are You Carrying? How Abusers Offload Pain to Avoid Accountability

60

Why Abusers Believe Their Own Lies with Paul Colaianni

61

When You’re Not Allowed to Be Human: A Journal Entry from Inside the Cycle of Abuse

62

The Abuse That Didn’t Look Like Abuse

63

The Manipulation I Didn’t See—Until I Did

64

Mapping Your Specific Cycle of Abuse

65

Can a Narcissist Actually Change?

66

Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything)

67

Why They Couldn’t Love You: Understanding Emotional Capacity in Toxic Relationships

68

Understanding the Trauma Bond

69

The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits

70

They're Just Avoiding Accountability

71

The Cumulative Effect: Why It Wasn’t “Just One Thing”

72

When Betrayal Breaks Your Sense of Self

73

Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: Why It Matters and How It Can Help

74

He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff

75

Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae

76

How Abusers Use Therapy Against You

77

When Gaslighting Silences Your Inner Voice

78

Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary

79

Are You Trapped in a High Conflict Divorce with a Narcissist?

80

DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Keeps You Questioning Yourself

81

How Cluster B Traits Show Up in Toxic Relationships

82

I Love You, If You Do This: A Story of Realizing Sexual Coercion

83

Do You Feel Pressured to be Intimate?

84

Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse

85

Navigating Breakups

86

Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni

87

Trauma Bonding – Understanding the Addictive Cycle in Toxic Relationships

88

Breaking Free from a Toxic Relationship

89

Why Am I Stuck?

90

Fear of Abandonment vs. Pushing People Away: Breaking the Cycle of Chaos in Relationships

91

When "No" Isn't Respected: Understanding Sexual Coercion

92

Divorce Coaching is a Game-Changer for High-Conflict Situations

93

Navigating New Year’s Pressure After Emotional Abuse

94

Holiday Triggers and Emotional Healing

95

High-Conflict Co-Parenting During the Holidays

96

Holidays Without Your Kids

97

Emotional Coercion

98

Coercive Control with Dr Christine Cocchiola

99

Financial Coercion with Victoria Kirilloff

100

Last Straw Moments

101

Is it love or is it control?

102

Why we romanticize past toxic relationships

103

Sexual Coercion

104

Understanding the Mindset of an Abusive Person

105

Insidious and Not-So-Insidious Control

106

The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

107

Seeing Them for Who They Really Are

108

A Relationship with someone w/BPD

109

Is Your Relationship Safe?

110

Are you feeling crazy after a breakup?

111

How to Work with Me

112

Are You Becoming Like Them?

113

"Co-parenting" with a Narcissist: Interview with Chantal Contorines

114

Q & A Episode: Responding to Fan Mail Questions

115

What Recovery FEELS Like with Paul Colaianni

116

Beginning to Heal

117

The Three Faces of Your Partner in an Abusive Relationship

118

Why It's Okay to Not Be Over It Yet

119

Trauma Bonding is Betrayal Trauma

120

Reclaiming your inner voice with Amy Fielder

121

Borderline Personality Disorder

122

Recognizing and Resisting Manipulation

123

Co-Parenting with Grace: Navigating Difficult Waters with Kind Mama Coaching

124

Q&A Episode with Jessica Knight

125

Cognitive Dissonance with Kerry McAvoy

126

Navigating the Financial Storm of Divorce with Victoria Kirilloff

127

Narcissists rewrite history to escape accountability

128

An Update on Christina Pierce

129

Understanding the Nuance of the Cycle of Abuse

130

The Danger of Oversimplified Advice

131

Recognizing the Red Flags of Abuse

132

A Guide for Protective Moms with Courtney Gilmartin

133

Further Unpacking Gaslighting

134

Breaking the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse: Understanding the Discard with Ben Taylor

135

The 5 Love Languages Do Not Work With Abuse

136

Does the abuser see you as a person?

137

Emotional Immaturity and it's Ties to Abuse

138

Recognizing Manipulation and Healing from Emotional Abuse

139

Understanding Trauma Responses and Triggers with Emmy Marie

140

Is it Emotional Abuse? Assessment Tool

141

Coercive Control

142

Single Mother Stripped of Parenting Rights: The Reality of High Conflict Divorce

143

Detaching from an Abusive Relationship

144

Healthy After Toxic with Ginger Dean

145

Deciphering Personality Disorders and Navigating Manipulative Relationships with Kerry Kerr McAvoy

146

Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies and Insights with Family Court Strategist Tori

147

Inside the Mind of a Narcissist with Ben Taylor

148

Navigating the Maze of Subtle Emotional Abuse

149

Decoding Narcissistic Abuse and Manipulation Tactics with Katherine Kleis

150

Navigating the Journey from Emotional Abuse to Self-Awareness and Love

151

Understanding and Healing Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni

152

Navigating the Holidays with Narcissistic Ex's and Co-Parenting

153

Breaking the Cycle of Rumination with Trey

154

Navigating Abusive Relationships with Paul Colaianni: Q&A Episode

155

Love Addiction: Understanding and Overcoming with Psychotherapist Jodi White

156

Working Through Trauma from Abuse with Emmy Marie

157

Recognizing and Healing from Covert Narcissism with Erin Riley

158

How to Divorce a Narcissist with Tina Swithin

159

Reactive Abuse: Recognizing Patterns with Paul Colaianni

160

Understanding and Overcoming Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships with Dr. Frieda

161

Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

162

Recognizing and Overcoming Abusive Relationships: Episode 100

163

Regaining Control in Toxic Relationships

164

End of Friendships & Navigating Post-Trauma Relationships

165

Choosing a Therapist or Life Coach when Healing from Abuse

166

Unraveling Insecure Attachment Styles: Understanding and Overcoming Anxiety in Relationships

167

Unraveling the Family Court System: Strategies for Protecting Your Child in High Conflict Divorces

168

Escaping the Cycle: Healing from Toxic Relationships and Trauma Bonds with Ben Taylor

169

Journey to Healing: Overcoming Trauma through Therapy, Yoga and Mindfulness with Anna Hindell

170

Love After Abuse with Nia Renee

171

How to Begin to Heal from a Trauma Bond

172

Breaking Free from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse

173

Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist {Interview with Tori}

174

"How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?"

175

How I Got Here - My Story

176

Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse with Manjit Rupri

177

Inside Love You More: Surviving Emotional, Sexual and Financial Abuse

178

Growing Up in a Narcissistic Home & Healing from Abuse with Katherine Kleis

179

The Healing Empath with Raven Scott

180

The Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse with Rossana Faye

181

Importance of Community when Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Kerry McAvoy

182

What is Trauma Bonding?

183

The Intersection Between Christianity and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor

184

Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse with Trey

185

When You're Stuck in Love with an Abuser

186

How Do You Know You're Not the Problem? {aka not a Narcissist}

187

Signs You're Co-Parenting with a Narcissist + Q&A

188

Shame, Blame and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor

189

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Ashlee Levitch

190

Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist with Kind Mama Divorce Coaching

191

Love Bombing

192

Sexual and Marital Coercion with Nat/Mending Me

193

Can the Abuser and the Victim Learn to Love Healthy? {Interview with Paul Colliani}

194

Fawning: What is it and why do we do it?

195

Healing After an Abusive Relationship with Emmy Marie

196

Fawning Explained - What it feels like

197

Pamela Anderson Documentary

198

The Narcissists Perspective with a Diagnosed Narcissist {Interview with Lee Hammock}

199

No Contact with a Narcissist

200

The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse with Psychologist Kerry Kerr McAvoy

201

10 Signs You're in a Trauma Bond

202

Understanding Narcissism in South Asian Culture

203

Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Manjit Kaur Ruprai

204

The Yellow Rock Method for Communicating with a Narcissistic Co-Parent

205

Parallel Parenting Explained

206

What I Learned from Being in a Relationship with a Narcissist

207

Is it Abuse or Toxicity? 3 Tools to Understand

208

5 Reasons Narcissists Ruin the Holidays

209

Did the Narcissist Love Me?

210

Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse Q & A

211

The Rules of a Non-Abusive Relationship Do Not Apply to a Narcissistic Breakup

212

How to Leave (Part 1)

213

5 Qualities of a Healthy Partner

214

"Don't Rock the Boat" is Toxic

215

Working to Control Your Thoughts is Important

216

A Meditation to Help You Connect to Yourself

217

Am I Responsible for Feeling Abused?

218

Understanding Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni

219

Emotional Abuse on Netflix Love is Blind (Matt and Colleen)

220

Post Separation Abuse and the Family Court System {Interview with Tina Swithin}

221

Narcissistic Projection Explained

222

When you don't know you're being Gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly

223

Conversations with a Narcissist

224

Identifying a Trauma Bond

225

The Difference Between Therapy and Coaching

226

What Emotional Abuse Looks and Feels Like

227

The Mind of the Abuser, Interview with Paul Colaianni, Host of the Love and Abuse Podcast

228

The Relationship Recovery Program

229

Types of Abuse in Domestic Partnerships

230

Season Break Update

231

End of Season Updates

232

A Purgatory

233

How to Stop Feeling Bad for a Narcissist

234

Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

235

How to Break a Trauma Bond

236

Why Other Peoples Opinions Do Not Matter

237

Books that Helped Me Heal

238

Interview with a Love Witch

239

How to Use Canned Responses as a Boundary

240

Wait, do you only work with 20-30 yr olds?

241

7 Ways to Starve a Narcissist

242

Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behaviors - Part 3

243

Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 2

244

Understanding the Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 1

245

5 Strategies To Help You When Dealing with a Narcissist or Emotional Abuser

246

What is the Difference Between a Narcissist and an Abuser?

247

Emotional Abuse Q & A

248

What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back?

249

How to Diffuse a Narcissist

250

How to Set Boundaries with an Abuser

251

Learning to be There for Yourself

252

Understanding the Cycle of Abuse

253

An Abusers Apology and How to Know if they are Truly Sorry

254

I Hate the Rhetoric on Self Love

255

What it Feels Like to be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

256

What it's Like to Work with Me

257

Common Signs of Gaslighting and How to Ungaslight Yourself

258

Trauma Bonding and How We Can Heal

259

What are Signs of Emotional Abuse?

260

Will My Emotionally Abusive Partner Change?

261

My Story