Self Care is Sexy

Today we are going over the top 5 ways you can encourage others’ self-care without sounding preachy. And we’re talking about how helping others is really helping you on your self care journey.

Got a pile of laundry that's been sitting there for a few days? A sink load of dishes piling up? Well guess what? So does everyone else and it doesn't mean you're a failure. It’s time to tell the truth - "Spring Cleaning" and “tidying for joy” is just another form of performative toxic positivity trying to sell us more organizing and cleaning supplies and that is NOT self-care. Your self-worth should not be based on whether or not you vacuumed today. And for God sakes stop holding your snacks hostage until you have cleaned the living room.

Know someone facing a really hard time right now? Been up all night crying? How you offer help says a lot more about your own ability, or lack of self-care. The next time you catch yourself about to say "let me know if you need anything" — and you will, because we all will, I'm gonna say it this week, you're gonna say it this week —Pause. Just for a second. Ask yourself: what would I want? And if you don't know — that's not a failure. That's information. That's the assignment. That's where self care begins.

Your Feed Is Not Your Friend — half the self-care accounts we follow were never meant to make us feel good. Plot twist: the most powerful wellness move you'll make this week costs $0 and takes 30 seconds. (It's the unfollow button, babe.) This episode is your gentle nudge to curate your life a little differently. We're chatting about trading the highlight reel for habits that actually fit your real, beautiful, chaotic life. Think: the self-care practices that don't require a ring light, a fridge full of adaptogens, or a six-step morning routine. Just you, your actual needs, and maybe a really good playlist.

Nobody handed me a manual. No one told me that surviving wasn't the same as thriving — or that five minutes of actual rest could hit different than eight hours of anxious sleep.This episode is the cheat code I didn't have.We're ditching the bubble-bath version of self-care and getting into the real stuff — the tiny, unglamorous, borderline radical acts that actually move the needle. No 75 Hard. No $200 supplements. No guilt. Just the micro-shifts that compound into a life that feels like yours. If your 30s were (or are) a blur of giving everything to everyone else, this one's for you. Whether you're in your 20s trying to get ahead of the chaos, deep in the thick of it, or finally clawing back your peace — pull up a seat.Your future self already thanks you.🎧 Hit play. It's literally the smallest thing you can do for yourself today.

It's the first day of Spring! And you wanna roll back over and rest...well, go right ahead! This episode gives you permission to hang out in winter hibernation a little bit longer in order to honor your self-care needs. We go over the 5 different types of rest and give you easy practical self-care tips for each different kind. 

In a world that equates your productivity with your worth, choosing self-care isn't just a luxury—it’s a revolution. This week, we’re stripping away the "wellness" marketing and getting back to the roots of self-care as a political act. We discuss why protecting your peace is a middle finger to the status quo and how to reclaim your time without the guilt. Join us in the quiet rebellion that is self-care and start learning to identifying how the systems of control benefit from your exhaustion. Today’s episode explores the simple but often uncomfortable work of self-preservation as the greatest gift you can give to your community and your cause. 

Today's show is the how to hack on prioritizing! “I’ll get to some self-care once everything else is done.” How many times have you said that this week? For most of us, self-care sits at the very bottom of a never-ending to-do list—a "nice-to-have" goal that we only reach if the stars align and the dishes are done. In today’s episode, we’re flipping the script. We’re moving self-care out of the "someday" category and into the "standard operating procedure" category. We explore why treating your well-being as a rule rather than a goal is the only way to actually sustain your energy, your mental health, and your joy.

The "New Year, New You" industrial complex is back, and frankly, it’s toxic af. This week, we’re opting out of the annual ritual of self-loathing disguised as "goal setting." If you’re tired of the all-or-nothing trap that leaves you feeling like a failure by January 10th, this episode is your permission slip to stay exactly as you are. We’re diving into:Why the "overhaul" mentality is actually a scam designed to sell you shit you don't needThe radical power of doing less and why it’s not "laziness" but going with the seasons  How to embrace the "Current Me" instead of chasing a "Future Me" who doesn't even exist yetDitch the tired idea of overhaul, resolutions, and new habit building, and let’s get real about self-care and what's gotta go! 

The holidays are officially here! 🎄✨ But let’s be real: between the endless gift lists, the social calendar gymnastics, and that one relative who always asks about your "plans for the future," your stress levels might be higher than Santa Snoop come Christmas Eve. In this episode, we’re ditching the $200 spa packages and the "treat yourself" shopping hauls that leave your bank account crying. We’re diving into the ultimate guide to holiday self-care that costs $0 (or very close to it). Whether you’re feeling burnt out or just want to protect your peace this season, we’ve got the tips to help you reclaim your joy without breaking the bank.

Let's be real, you argue with yourself more than anyone else. Should I have that second cookie? Is this email professional enough? Why did I just say that out loud?! 🤦‍♀️ Our inner voice is loud, persistent, and sometimes, a total asshole. But what if we could harness all that mental energy for good? In this hilarious and surprisingly insightful episode, we’re breaking down the science of inner dialogue and sharing practical, no-BS tips for making your self-talk your secret weapon instead of your biggest stressor. Consider this your official guide to taming the mental chaos and transforming those endless self-arguments into real, actionable self-care wins.Tune in—your brain will thank you! 🧠✨😂

💅 The Essential 'Basic Bitch' Self-Care Survival Guide ☕Let's be real: Self-care doesn't always have to be a silent retreat in Bali or a five-day digital detox. Sometimes, the most effective self-care is also the most wonderfully basic.In this episode, we're ditching the expensive wellness gurus and diving head-first into the simple, cliché, yet undeniably comforting rituals we all secretly love. Think pumpkin spice lattes, a perfectly curated Target run (alone!), the crunch of an autumn leaf on a hot girl walk, and the pure bliss of a new sheet mask after a long day.We're tackling why these "basic" moves are actually brilliant acts of self-love and exactly how to stop feeling guilty for enjoying them. Plus, we'll reveal the true emotional power of a freshly painted nude manicure.Tune in to discover how embracing your inner Basic Bitch can be the easiest, most enjoyable, and most effective way to refill your cup. Because frankly, you deserve that cozy blanket and a binge-watch session. Ready to get basic? Hit subscribe and let's get our low-effort, high-impact self-care on!

🤯 Tired of your to-do list feeling like a mythical beast? 🐉 Join us this week as we debunk the biggest lie of procrastination: that it's a lack of motivation and something wrong with YOU. Psh! It's actually a sneaky form of self-care gone wrong. 🚨We're swapping "treat yourself" with real, actionable self-soothing tools that help you stop scrolling and start doing without burning out. Learn why you're putting things off, how your body is trying to protect you, and the simple mental trick to finally get off the couch. (Spoiler: It involves a tiny, very specific task). If you’ve ever cried over an email you needed to send, this episode is your official intervention to debunk procrastination. 😂

Are you hungry for some Soul Snacks?! Check out this major jolt of motivation⚡️ from our incredible guest, Amanda A.!!! This badass momma from So Cal is bringing the heat! 🔥 In this power-packed chat, she shares her best quick-fire tips for boosting self-esteem, practicing compassionate self-care, and finally falling in love with the person in the mirror. You deserve this instant mood-booster! 💖Tune in for:Simple, actionable steps to elevate your overall mood today.The secret to shifting from self-criticism to self-love wins.How to make self-care a non-negotiable part of your daily life.

Ready to finally feel truly amazing about who you are, no matter what? In this episode, we're diving deep into unshakable self-worth and giving you the exact actionable tips you need to build it from the inside out! Forget the fluff – we're sharing easy, practical strategies you can start using today to quiet self-doubt, celebrate your strengths, and feel genuinely confident in every aspect of your life. Learn how to:Silence your inner critic and embrace your unique brilliance.Set healthy boundaries that honor your value.Recognize and celebrate your wins, big and small.Cultivate a mindset that fuels your confidence.Whether you're just starting your journey to self-love or looking to deepen your sense of worth, this episode is packed with insights that will empower you. Tune in and discover how truly incredible you are!

Tired of self-care feeling like another chore? What if you could get the most out of your downtime with the least amount of effort? In this episode, we're tackling the myth that self-care has to be complex. We'll explore quick wins, mindful moments, and easy adjustments that will leave you feeling refreshed and recharged – without adding to your stress.

Is your phone your bestie or your frenemy? This week we're diving deep into the tricky relationship between social media and self-care. We're talking dopamine hits, comparison traps, and how to curate a feed that fuels your soul, not your anxiety. Join us for tips, tricks, and maybe a little digital detox inspiration. Let's reclaim our time and our sanity, one mindful scroll at a time!

🎧Stop Mood-Fixing! Tired of being the emotional fixer for everyone in your life? Feeling drained and resentful because you constantly try to "fix" other people's moods? In this episode, we dive deep into the toxic trap of mood-fixing and why it's time to break free from the emotional burden. We'll explore:The dangers of people-pleasing and why it's hurting you more than helping them.How to set healthy boundaries and prioritize your own emotional well-being.Powerful self-care strategies to recharge and avoid burnout.Simple yet effective communication techniques to navigate difficult emotions without taking them on yourself.Embracing empathy without enabling unhealthy behaviors. ☀️                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Discover the freedom that comes from letting go of the need to control others' emotions. Learn how to  cultivate a more peaceful and fulfilling life while still offering genuine support and compassion.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Listen now and reclaim your emotional sovereignty!👑

Feeling a little off this week? Self-care seeming like it's constantly two steps forward, one step back with self-care? You're not alone! This episode explores the common pitfalls and provides practical strategies to overcome self-care setbacks and cultivate lasting wellness habits. 

✨ Holiday Sanity Saver✨Tired of the holiday hustle? 🙋‍♀️🙋‍♂️ Well this bonus episode is for you! We're ditching the "must-do" list and embracing a more mindful approach to the season. 🎄🎁Join us as we discuss:Breaking free from the holiday hamster wheel. 🐹Prioritizing self-care amidst the chaos. 💆‍♀️🧘‍♂️Redefining holiday celebrations. 🎁✨Finding joy in the simple things. ✨Let's make this holiday season one of peace, presence, and genuine connection. ❤️ Listen now and reclaim your holiday sanity! 🎧

Sick to death of constantly criticizing yourself? Yeah!? Well, so are WE! All that self-criticism not only damages self-esteem but can also keep us stuck in a cycle where we’re afraid to take risks or try new things. That harsh self-criticism actually hinders personal growth by creating a fear of failure and reinforcing a narrow view of who we are. So ditch that black & white thinking, accept that you're going to make mistakes and ask others to call you out when they hear you administering that epic verbal beat down, even when it's "just a joke". 

✨Do you second-guess your choices or struggle to hear your inner voice amidst the noise of daily life? In this empowering episode of Self-Care is Sexy, we dive into the transformative art of self-trust. Discover why your intuition is your greatest ally, how to silence self-doubt, and practical steps to strengthen your connection with your inner compass. Tune in to learn how trusting yourself can unlock confidence, clarity, and a life that feels authentically yours. 

In this episode of Self-Care is Sexy, we dive into the transformative journey of becoming emotionally self-sufficient. What does it mean to meet your own needs in a world that often demands so much of us? We’ll explore the balance between self-reliance and connection, how to identify your unmet needs, and practical strategies to nurture yourself in meaningful ways.Whether you’re seeking to deepen your self-awareness or simply want to feel more grounded and whole, this conversation is packed with insights to help you source strength, love, and fulfillment from within. Tune in to discover how honoring yourself can transform your relationships, boost your resilience, and unlock true emotional independence.Quote: “Love yourself so much that when someone treats you wrong, you recognize it”Challenge for the week: take a few minutes each day to check in with yourself. Ask yourself, ‘What do I need right now?’ Then take one small step to meet that need. Whether it’s resting, setting a boundary, or finding time for joy—honor yourself.

🌟 Ever found yourself stuck in a loop of negative thoughts or self-doubt? You're not alone, and the good news is, there's a way out! Join us as we explore the art of positive self-talk and how to use it as a powerful tool for personal growth and success. From practical tips on shifting your inner dialogue to real-life examples of how self-talk can turn challenges into triumphs, this episode is packed with insights you can apply right away.🎧 You’ll learn:- The science behind self-talk and why it matters- Easy-to-implement techniques for transforming negative thoughts into positive affirmations- Inspiring stories of how changing your self-talk can change your life💪 Whether you’re looking to build confidence, tackle a tough project, or simply want to start your day on a positive note, this episode will give you the tools to speak to yourself like your biggest cheerleader. Tune in, get inspired, and start talking your way to a brighter, more empowered you!📅 Don’t miss out—subscribe now and let’s boost your day with the power of positive self-talk!

In this episode of Self Care is Sexy, we’re bringing you 200 fresh, creative, and practical self-care ideas to help you recharge, refocus, and nurture your mind, body, and soul. Whether you're looking for simple ways to integrate self-care into your daily routine or something new to shake up your current practices, this episode has you covered. From mindful habits to wellness hacks, creative hobbies, and grounding techniques, there's something here for everyone. Tune in and discover how small self-care changes can have a big impact on your overall well-being. Get ready to make self-care a priority!

🌟Explosive topic on today's show! - In this episode, we unpack the myth of the lone wolf mentality and explore how an overemphasis on self-reliance can lead to burnout, isolation, and a range of mental health challenges.Whether you’re someone who prides yourself on doing it all alone or someone who’s struggling with the weight of too much independence, this episode is a must-listen.🎧Tune in to discover how to cultivate a healthier, more balanced approach to self-reliance that fosters growth and connection.📅Don’t miss this insightful conversation—subscribe now and join us for a deep dive into the complexities of toxic self-reliance!Self care to neutralize toxic reliance-Face ice bath  Digital therapy - WEconnect, BetterHelp or Talkspace    Negative note card activityCreate Self-talk cheat sheet

🎙️ New Episode Alert: "Beyond the Facade: Authentic Self-Care vs. Performative Trends" 🌟Ever find yourself drowning in bubble baths, mindfulness apps, and hashtag-worthy smoothie bowls, only to realize you’re still running on empty? 🤔 In this episode of Self-Care is Sexy we’re diving deep into the world of self-care—beyond the glittering surface of Instagram trends and self-help fads.Ready to stop performing self-care and start living it? Tune in, laugh with us, and discover how to cultivate a life that’s as real and refreshing as your favorite guilty-pleasure TV show. 🍹📺Subscribe now and get ready to ditch the performative fluff for something truly transformative! 🌈🙌Join us as we unpack the difference between genuinely nurturing your soul and just ticking off boxes on a wellness to-do list. 🛁✨ 

Time to grab that journal and hit pause because this episode is all about crafting your ultimate self-care plan! 🎧✍️ Join me for a hands-on, self-guided journey where you'll dive into quick, insightful journal prompts to pinpoint which area of your life needs a little extra TLC. From setting goals and tackling setbacks to uncovering your unique self-care needs, this interactive episode is your roadmap to a more personalized self-care routine. Ready to get introspective and actionable? Let’s get started! 💪🧘‍♀️

When we are making self-care the priority, oftentimes conflict can arise. With the right tips, tricks, and tools we can go from avoiding any and all conflict at all costs to being able to handle confrontation and conflict with confidence in a way that is healthy and productive for both sides of the perceived conflict.

This interview with Sione Fa is jam packed with realistic, down to earth, genuine, and vulnerable self care advice. He shares openly about the importance of mental health, the reality of goal setting and prioritizing, and even breaks down daily routines, such as a daily plan, to help with time management. As a former contestant on the hit TV show The Biggest Loser Season 7, he shares how coming across his own past experience and advice has helped him regain perspective and motivation. Sione is a small business owner, a very devoted father of two active sons in various sports, and a daughter who just graduated, so he’s got a lot less time to focus on his goals but shares with us the ways he makes his health and self care the priority. You can connect with Sione via his FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/sione.fa.10/about or on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sionefa/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet

You're out there living your best life becoming the best version of you yay!! Now listen as I call 100% BS on that and invite you to change your language and change your life by looking at self improvement in a totally new way! Let's put reality back into the mix and start working on creating our favorite version of ourselves vs striving for an unrealistic very best version of you that doesn't even exist. Prepared to not be sold a bunch of crap that you don't need in order to make self-care a priority! 

Part 2 in a 2 part series all about self betrayal, the number one enemy of self care. In part 2 I go through 10 different ways you can self-care through past self betrayal. I get to the heart of the healing from this subtle foe and describe different techniques you can use to spot self betrayal before it starts to give yourself a chance to avoid it.

Part 1 in a 2 part series all about self betrayal, the number one enemy of self care. In part 1 I give 10 different real life examples of subtle self betrayal in order to lay a solid foundation about this very real, very difficult barrier to self care. I explain how self betrayal seems so innocent and not something that requires too much thought but that leads to needing to escape our lives and ourselves.

Today I am summarizing this amazing skill that I learned from Corinne Crabtree who has a #1 podcast focused on weight loss, mental health & fitness! I'm talking about what pivoting!! I'll be sharing with you real life examples of how we can learn to pivot when it comes to self care and I even dive into all the amazing benefits. You can hear it directly from the source by checking out Losing 100 with Corinne Crabtree.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/losing-100-pounds-with-corinne/id1233384453

My quick but powerful interview with Elizabeth Miller from the Happy Healthy Caregiver podcast! Happy Healthy Caregiver is for family caregivers who feel isolated and overwhelmed by all their responsibilities and want help integrating caregiving (and self-care!) with their life. Many support resources are available, including an on-demand digital course, a free encouraging Facebook group focused on self-care for family caregivers, and coaching video tips on Instagram.

Got a super busy day? A million and one demands on your time? Do you have to get done a long list of stuff today? I bet you do! So here is a quick episode with 10 self-care ideas that you can sneak into even the busiest of days. I also include some powerful but easy mind-set shifts that can help slipping in that self-care easier and doable.

Love yourself more in 2024! Yeah, yeah, yeah we've heard all that before. But what even is that? And how can you love yourself more if you don't even like yourself right now? Well, glad you found me and my crazy show because that's what I'm going to do in this episode. I walk you through exactly how to love yourself, especially if you don't feel great about yourself. I've got tips on how you can connect more with your authentic self as well as how to take off the Polly perfect mask you might be showing up in.

Not all self-care is the same. Some days we have the energy for A++ efforts to take care of our needs while other days we need to allow for that C level of effort where we can get by with just meeting expectations. I walk through some reflective questions you can use to assess your current level of self-care needs and even give some examples of how to meet those needs. No matter if you are basic, better or at your best, these tips are all equally helpful.

Before you run out and buy a new juicer, sign up for a gym membership or commit to a ten week coaching season with your favorite guru, listen to this special NYE episode and get real self-care ideas that are giving what you're actually want, permission to do less. So, ditch the dusty ass motto "new year, new me'' avoid the overhaul and instead do not do more in 2024. It's not a goal setting season. It's time for rest and recharge. This special self-care Sunday, I've got 24 self-care ideas that are going to help you feel better right now, without having to purchase a peloton or get a total makeover. Thought detoxSocial media eval Emotional intelligence Break up with beating yourself upTalk to old youValue any point of interruptionLaughing yogaStop future trippingAdmitSelf talkPivotDeclutterOverflowing cupPace yourselfNew undersJournalingChange the wallpaperGet a humidifierNew quality scentClean out your self-care toolsNew sheets and a pillow Celebrate small wins Start a new random hobby Mediate

Apparently not everyone knows the difference between anxiety and/or what hypervigilance is. So today I’m running over what it is, how to spot it and some self-care tips specifically designed to help soothe this pretty common trauma response that you might be white knuckling yourself through but without outside individualized help, it may be too much for some.

Comparing ourselves to others does dangerous things to our self esteem. If you find yourself sucked into sizing up how you fit in compared to those around you, watch out for depression and feeling like ass about yourself. I’ve got 5 easy ways to avoid comparing yourself to others and 5 fun ways to generate more self compassion!

5 ways to set personal limits and avoid being overly productive. If you struggle with self-care, you don’t need more messages about "rise and grind". You don't need to be pushing your limits in order to become a better you. Today's show gets into what actually motivates you to work on sself-improvement in a healthy and loving way so that when you reach your goals you don't arrive a half dead burnt out version of who you are now. I walk through why being overly productive, forcing youself to get it all done, is so harmful to you and help you slow down, give yourself grace in order to really find some peace.

This is a raw and real interview with an incredible down to earth mother of three who is juggling a lot in life while dealing with the loss of her best friend and navigating newly discovered mental health challenges. She shares with us how it’s not always possible to get time for self-care and that you have to find it where you can. Whether it’s a speed bag in the garage, cleaning house dance parties or just a weekly bath, real life self-care can is sometimes very hard to do, but it can be squeezed into anyone’s lifestyle, even if you’re struggling.

Just in time for Thanksgiving I’ve got a show all about setting boundaries! How to set them. How to keep them and even how to set them internally. Cuz let's face it, you’re highly likely to be spending time with folks who are gonna cross that line. So if you've got plans with family, in-laws and possibly people you don't want to be around I’ve got a lot of simple practical tips that you can start using as soon as you shut the podcast off that are going to make you feel like an absolute badass at boundaries.

You know self-care is good for you! You're a better person when you put yourself first. You show up ready to serve others if you make self-care a priority, but what if you struggle with follow through? Well, today's episode is perfect for you. I'm teaching you a simple hack that is going to make life easier, and can put more of your to-do's on autopilot so you can ensure more time for doing nothing.

What makes self-care seem hard to implement? What can we do to make it easier? Today I deconstruct the top 5 things that are making it so hard to take time to take care of yourself. I will show you how you can do self care differently so that it feels easy, doable and so that you can become consistent with it.

Today’s show we’re going to talk about a self care reboot. It’s going to help us start thinking about how to reset what we’ve been doing for self care and looking at ways we can change it up a little bit so that we don’t get so stuck in a rut. And if you don’t currently do anything for self care, this episode is a great way to get the motivation to get started.

It can be hard to ignore the alarm that goes off saying you have a ton of things to do today in an effort to make self-care the priority. This episode we talk all about how you create the permission to dismiss all the to-do's and work in that subtle self-care all throughout you day! You can start right now by reminding yourself and telling yourself out loud, "you're doing a good job today"!

You know what to do but can't get yourself to do it. You always seem to just about reach your goals just before sliding backwards into old familiar patters. You ask yourself all the time "Why did I just do that? I know better" Well, you my friend, are engaged in self sabotage. And I've got some great tips to help you figure out how to stop doing it and get the self-care you deserve to forgive and love yourself like a badass!

People Pleasing, it when you think you're being nice, helpful and feel really good about yourself for helping others but the reality is your trying to manipulating others into thinking you are a different person, so they will like you. And its leaving you zero time for any meaningful self-care. So how do you stop being anxious to please? What self-care can help heal from chronic people pleasing? I've got the tips, tricks and hacks to make People Pleasing a thing of the past.