All Episodes

#280: Why You Feel Jealous About Your Partner's Past (& How to Navigate It)

#279: When an Old Love Resurfaces and Starts Pulling Away (Ask Steph)

#278: How to Navigate Being Triggered by a Partner's Moodiness

#277: What to Look For in a Long-Term Partner

#276: Attachment & Conflict (Part 4): Repairing After Relationship Rupture

#275: Why You Can't Get Over Your Ex

#274: Attachment & Conflict (Part 3): How to Experience Healthier Conflict

#273: Attachment & Conflict (Part 2): Avoidant Attachment

#272: How to Talk to Your Partner About Their Avoidant Attachment (Ask Steph)

#271: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: Guidance for Partners (Part 4)

#270: How to Remain Hopeful After Heartbreak & Bad Dating Experiences (Ask Steph)

#269: Stay or Go: How to Know When It's Time to Walk Away

#268: When You're Not Attracted to Healthy Partners (Ask Steph)

#267: Attachment & Conflict (Part 1): Anxious Attachment

#266: How to Move from Understanding Your Patterns to Actually Changing Them (Ask Steph)

#265: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: How to Heal (Part 3)

#264: The One Thing You Should Never Do in Relationships (from Substack)

#263: How to Stop Obsessing About Someone

#262: How to Navigate Feeling Behind in Life (Ask Steph)

#261: Sex, Intimacy, and Attachment Styles

#260: Can You Become Anxiously Attached from Dating an Avoidant Person? (Ask Steph)

#259: How to Communicate with a Defensive Partner

#258: When Your Partner Isn't Respecting Your Boundaries (Ask Steph)

#257: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: How It Shows Up in Relationships (Part 2)

#256: How to Balance Accepting Your Partner & Supporting Their Growth (Ask Steph)

#255: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: Origins & Core Wounds (Part 1)

#254: Healthy Privacy vs. Unhealthy Secrecy in Relationships (Ask Steph)

#253: Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

#252: Finding Self-Compassion When Everything is Falling Apart (Ask Steph)

#251: How I Approach Nervous System Regulation & Wellbeing

#250: Are They Avoidant or Just Not That Into You? (Ask Steph)

#249: The First 30 Days After a Breakup

#248: How to Cope With My Ex Being Happy in a New Relationship (Ask Steph)

#247: Is It Your Anxious Attachment... or the Wrong Relationship?

#246: When Is It a Good Idea to Be Friends with an Ex? (Ask Steph)

#245: Should Anxiously Attached People Just Avoid Avoidants?

#244: I Healed My Anxious Attachment… So Why Don’t I Want a Relationship Anymore? (Ask Steph)

#243: How to Create Healthy, Balanced Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab

#242: When Does Self-Improvement Become Self-Sabotage? (Ask Steph)

#241: How to Date from Self-Worth

#240: The #1 Thing to Focus On to Heal Anxious Attachment (Ask Steph)

#239: The Anxious Attachment Healing Roadmap

#238: Can a Relationship Survive If Only One Person is Doing the Work? (Ask Steph)

#237: How Anxious & Avoidant People Differ Around Breakups

#236: Coping With Separation Anxiety When Your Partner Is Away (Ask Steph)

#235: What Attachment Theory Does (& Does Not) Explain

#234: What Makes an Avoidant Partner Feel Safe to Open Up? (Ask Steph)

#233: How to Put an End to Situationships (Once & For All)

#232: Why Do I Miss My Ex Now That I’m Dating Someone New? (Ask Steph)

#231: Why You Can't Love Someone Into Changing

#230: How Do I Know My New Partner Will Be Better Than My Last One? (Ask Steph)

#229: The Hallmarks of a Secure Relationship

#228: When You Want More Words of Affirmation — But Don’t Want to Ask (Ask Steph)

#227: The Most Common Forms of Self-Sabotage After a Break-Up

#226: “If They Wanted To, They Would” (Ask Steph)

#225: How to Know Whether to Keep Trying or Walk Away from a Relationship

#224: I Drunk Texted My Ex and Feel So Much Shame — Help! (Ask Steph)

#223: What It Really Takes to Make an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship Work

#222: Can a Fearful Avoidant Change After Cheating? (Ask Steph)

#221: How to Let Go of Someone You Love (For Anxious Attachers)

#220: 3 Hard Truths About Changing Your Life

#219: How a Fear of Rejection Keeps Us From What We Want Most

#218: Why You're Attracted to Unavailable People

#217: The Missing Piece in Your Healing Journey

#216: My Story of Healing Anxious Attachment

#215: Resentment, Real Repair, Conflict Avoidance & Navigating Dating With Kids — ft. James ‘Fish’ Gill

#214: Parenting Q&A: Fears About Having Kids, Staying Connected After a Baby, Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics & More

#213: How to Care Less About Others' Opinions & Trust Yourself More

#212: How & When to Start Dating Again After a Break-up

#211: The Hard Truth About Closure After a Break-up

#210: Can You Heal in a Relationship That Constantly Triggers You?

#209: 5 Green Flags in Early Dating

#208: Anxious Attachment & the Fear of Infidelity

#207: Why You Feel Secure When You’re Single (But Anxious When You Start Dating)

#206: How Understanding Your Nervous System Can Make You A Better Partner & Parent with Alyssa Blask Campbell

#205: How to Process a Sudden Break-Up (AKA the "Avoidant Discard")

#204: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

#203: How to Soften Your Inner Critic and Forgive Yourself for the Past

#202: How Attachment Styles Influence Friendship Dynamics

#201: How to Actually Heal from a Breakup

#200: How to Like Yourself More

#199: How Our Early Imprints Shape Our Lives & Relationships with Lael Stone

#198: What Anxiously Attached People Need to Thrive in a Relationship

#197: What Avoidant People Need to Thrive in a Relationship

#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships

#195: Two Simple Principles for a Healthy Nervous System

#194: When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship

#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment

#192: Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

#191: Pleasure, Rest, & Feeling Good in a Culture of Chronic Stress

#190: How to Stop the Anxious Spiral

#189: Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Jealousy

#188: When Your Relationship Feels Stuck (& What to Do About It)

#187: Is It Better to Heal While Single or in a Relationship?

#186: When Life Hasn't Gone to Plan

#185: How Caretaking Impacts Our Relationships

#184: Understanding the Power Struggle Stage of Relationships

#183: How to Be a Better Partner

#182: What to Do When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Work on Themselves (or the Relationship)

#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)

#180: 5 Hard Truths About Healing Anxious Attachment

#179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust

#178: When Your Partner Isn't Meeting Your Needs

#177: How Social Media Exacerbates Anxious Attachment

#176: Conscious Dating: How to Raise Your Standards & Date from Self-Worth

#175: Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment

#174: Anxiety vs. Intuition: How to Tell the Difference

#173: How to Rebuild Self-Worth After a Break-Up

#172: 10 Signs You're Moving From Anxious to Secure Attachment

#171: How to Transform Your Life

#170: Dating Q&A: Early Dating with Anxious Attachment, Navigating Texting Anxiety, Not Attaching Too Quickly, Prioritising Values Over Chemistry

#169: Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It & How to Break Free

#168: How to Support an Avoidant Partner to Open Up

#167: How to Balance Compassion for Others with Boundaries for Yourself

#166: Signs an Avoidant Partner is Deactivating & What to Do About It

#165: Why Validation is so Important for Anxiously Attached People

#164: 5 Unexpected Triggers of the Abandonment Wound

#163: How to Address a Partner’s Excessive Phone Usage

#162: How to Stop Hoping Your Ex Comes Back

#161: How Fearful Avoidant Attachment Shows Up In Relationships

#160: How to Work Through a Trigger

#159: 5 Signs You're Ready For a Relationship

#158: How to Stop Obsessing About Someone

#157: 3 Things You'll Notice in Your First Healthy Relationship

#156: Sex & Attachment: How Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles Impact Sexual Dynamics

#155: Fearful Avoidant and Anxious Attachment: Key Similarities & Differences

#154: 4 Reasons You Keep Attracting Situationships

#153: 3 Tips for Avoidant Attached People to Experience Healthier Conflict

#152: 3 Tips for Anxiously Attached People to Experience Healthier Conflict

#151: My 3 Favourite Quotes on Life & Love

#150: A Hard Truth About Setting Boundaries

#149: 3 Life Lessons I Wish I'd Learned Sooner

#148: How Resentment Impacts Our Relationships

#147: 5 Traits To Look For in a Partner

#146: How to Reconcile Conflicting Relationship Advice

#145: 3 Fights Every Anxious-Avoidant Couple Has Had

#144: Why You Struggle to Let Go After a Break-Up (Even When They Were "Bad" For You)

#143: Navigating Conflicting Needs for Togetherness & Separateness in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

#142: 5 Signs You Struggle With Receiving

#141: "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?"

#140: How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relationship

#139: Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender

#138: What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away

#137: Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment

#136: 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2)

#135: 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1)

#134: From Conflict to Connection with James "Fish" Gill (@james_fish_gill)

#133: 4 Common Misconceptions About Avoidant Attachment

#132: Cultivating Secure Love with Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship)

#131: On Getting Back Together with an Ex

#130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self

#129: Building Self-Worth & a Secure Dating Mindset with Dr. Morgan Anderson

#128: Why Avoidant People Tend to Struggle with Defensiveness

#127: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

#126: 5 Hard (But Liberating) Truths About Break-Ups

#125: How to Live Courageously in 2024

#124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability

#123: 3 Relationship Superpowers

#122: Why You Should Prioritise Self-Care in a Relationship

#121: What is Emotional Availability?

#120: 10 Tips for Healing an Anxious Attachment Style

#119: Am I People-Pleasing or Just Being Nice?

#118: Why Anxious & Avoidant People Are Drawn to Each Other

#117: How to Know When a Relationship is Worth Fighting For

#116: 5 Things to Normalise in Long-Term Relationships

#115: 5 Things Secure Couples Do Well

#114: Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Q&A (feat. my partner Joel)

#113: How Stress Impacts Our Relationships

#112: When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Do The Work

#111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness

#110: What Healthy Interdependency Looks Like & How to Cultivate It

#109: Anxious Attachment & Open Relationships

#108: How to Navigate Different Love Languages

#107: Q&A: Mismatched Libido & Anxious-Avoidant Sexual Dynamics

#106: Retroactive Jealousy: Navigating Discomfort With Our Partner's Past

#105: "How to navigate being newly single in my mid-30s? I feel like I'm out of time."

#104: The Importance of Separateness in Relationships

#103: How to Help a Partner Struggling with their Mental Health

#102: Break-Up Q&A: No-Contact, Reconciling, and Guilt

#101: Navigating Long-Distance Relationships: Tips & Pitfalls

#100: How to Stop Taking Things So Personally

#99: Attachment Styles & Break-Ups

#98: Ghosting: Why It Happens & How to Process

#97: How a Fear of Abandonment Impacts Our Relationships

#96: The Importance of Discomfort in Life & Relationships

#95: 3 Essential Ingredients to Make a Relationship Work

#94: The Path to Healing Anxious Attachment

#93: Why Are "Toxic" Relationships So Hard to Recover From

#92: How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships

#91: How to Navigate Boundaries with an Ex-Partner

#90: Breaking the Cycle of Situationships

#89: How to Care Less About Others' Opinions (For the Recovering People Pleaser)

#88: The Anxious Dater's Guide: How to Remain Grounded in the Early Dating Phase

#87: The Art of Secure Relating with Stan Tatkin

#86: 3 Tips for Building Self-Trust

#85: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 2)

#84: 5 Reminders If You're Going Through a Break-Up

#83: How to Navigate Addiction to Drama with Dr Scott Lyons

#82: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 1)

#81: The Gift of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

#80: How to Get an Avoidant Partner to Open Up

#79: 5 Reasons Why People Cheat

#78: Understanding Your Origin Wounds with Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft)

#77: "How to enjoy being single when I really want a relationship?"

#76: 5 Communication Mistakes You're Making (& What to do instead)

#75: Is "once a cheater, always a cheater" true?

#74: Helping Men Thrive in Life & Relationships with Connor Beaton (@mantalks)

#73: Why We Want to Believe in "The One"

#72: 5 Tips for Loving Someone Well

#71: "Is he avoidant or just not that into me?"

#70: 5 Tips for a Healthy, Balanced Nervous System

#69: "When is taking a break in a relationship a good idea?"

#68: How to Talk About Sex with Vanessa & Xander Marin

#67: Why Healthy Relationships Can Feel Boring

#66: How to Leave a Relationship (When You Know You Need To)

#65: "Can a relationship between two anxiously attached people work?"

#64: The Role of Criticism in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics

#63: "How to deal with an all-consuming fear that my partner will cheat on me?"

#62: Understanding Your Nervous System with Sarah Baldwin

#61: What to Do When You're Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship

#60: 5 Reasons You're Not Getting Your Needs Met (& What to Do About It)

#59: "How should I bring up moving in together with my avoidant partner?"

#58: From Anxious to Secure: 6 Shifts You'll Notice As You Heal

#57: The Difference Between Privacy and Secrecy in Relationships

#56: 5 Ways to Support a Fearful Avoidant Partner

#55: "I can't help but hope that my ex comes back. How do I let go so I can move on?"

#54: From Honeymoon Period to Power Struggle: Navigating the Stages of Relationship

#53: "I'm anxious, he's avoidant. Is it weird that I want more sex than him?"

#52: 6 Tips for Avoidant People in Becoming More Secure

#51: How to Initiate Hard Conversations with an Avoidant Partner

#50: Navigating Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

#49: "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it personally."

#48: 5 Questions to Assess the Emotional Health of Your Relationship

#47: "We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?"

#46: 5 Tips for Rebuilding After a Long-Term Relationship Ends

#45: "How do I tell my partner they are avoidant so we can do the work?"

#44: 5 Reasons You Might Struggle to Apologise

#43: "How do I navigate the tendency to lose myself in a long-term relationship as anxiously attached person?"

#42: 5 Similarities Between Anxious & Avoidant People

#41: Is It Possible to Go from Anxious to Avoidant after Heartbreak?

#40: 5 Pieces of Unhelpful Relationship Advice (& What to do Instead)

#39: 5 Pieces of Life Advice for 2023

#38: The 3 Stages of Healing Anxious Attachment

#37: Anxious Attachment & Inconsistency

#36: Q&A: Healing Anxious Attachment, How to Manage Texting Anxiety, Identifying & Expressing Needs, & Dealing w/ Boundaries from Avoidant Partners

#35: 5 Tips for Dealing with Regret & Self-Blame

#34: "What If I Outgrow My Partner?"

#33: What Causes an Insecure Attachment Style?

#32: Q&A: Dishonesty & Avoidant Partners, Boundaries Around Space, Trust & Privacy, Sexual Rejection & more

#31: 5 Tips to Improve Your Relationship Communication Skills

#30: 6 Signs You're Becoming More Secure

#29: 5 Ways to Improve Your Self-Worth

#28: 5 Signs You Need Better Boundaries

#27: 5 Reasons You Might Be Attracted to Unavailable People

#26: Attachment & Sex Q&A: Casual Sex & Anxious Attachment, Sex in Toxic vs Healthy Relationships, & Talking About Sex w/ Avoidant Partners

#25: 5 Dating Tips for Anxiously Attached People

#24: Special Episode: Behind the Scenes of our Relationship (w/ my partner Joel)

#23: 5 Questions to Ask Before Getting Back with Your Ex

#22: 5 Reasons Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Break-ups

#21: Break-Up Q&A: The "No-Contact" Period, Jealousy & Low Self-Worth, Feeling Blindsided, & Dating Mindset

#20: How to Find Closure After a Break-Up

#19: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

#18: Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags

#17: 5 Differences Between the Fearful and Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles

#16: Anxious Attachment, Conflict & Communication

#15: 5 Ways to Support an Anxiously Attached Partner

#14: 5 Ways to Support an Avoidant Partner

#13: How to Navigate the Fear of Rejection

#12: How to Set Boundaries

#11: How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment

#10: 5 Tips for Navigating a Break-Up

#9: 5 Steps to Working Through a Trigger

#8: Q&A: On All Things Love & Relationships

#7: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap

#6: Q&A: On Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

#5: 5 Traits of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style

#4: 5 Traits of the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

#3: Q&A: On Dating & Anxious Attachment

#2: 5 Things You Need to Know About Attachment Styles

#1: 5 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style